Summary

The author has, based on years of observation, figured out how to give feedback to whites. She enumerates these rules, which involve only giving indirect feedback in a private setting and validating the forms of oppression that have affected the white person. These rules function to restore white equilibrium and restore white superiority. Whites often claim whites who give them racial feedback are trying to find a "gotcha" moment. In contrast, the author tries to accept feedback about racism whenever it comes and to thank the sender of the message. She believes that she has no face to save and that it's important to acknowledge her blind spots.

Whites often need conditions for trust in order to undergo racial training. However, the author points out that these guidelines, such as assuming good intentions and speaking one's truth, serve to uphold the apparent racial...