"Since women do not typically define self-esteem and purpose in terms of personal accomplishment, the ways they have gone about getting some sense of identity, value, and meaning in their lives have been primarily through relationships." Chapter 1, page 7

"Expecting a boyfriend to provide you with your life is unrealistic and actually unfair, because it's simply not his job." Chapter 2, page 32

"You know, Diana, I think women have to cut out the romantic fantasy and talk turkey before they get into bed. Because if we don't clarify what it is we're doing before we do it, we can't complain about being misunderstood or used." Chapter 4, page 77

"Our inner changes happen so slowly that we sometimes don't see them - we're too into survival mode." Chapter 4, page 86

"Women have to know of their alternatives to selling themselves. And they have to be able to use their courage and creativity in...