Summary

Kobabe explains that Phoebe has always been supportive and recalls her describing em as a “genderless person,” remarking, “She knew before I did” (85). During eir junior year of high school, Kobabe got involved with the school theater club and learned about Oscar Wilde. Shortly thereafter, a male friend called Kobabe and asked em out on a date. E tentatively agreed, but when the friend called em his girlfriend, e canceled. E did not want to be anyone's girlfriend. E recalls two dreams e had in high school that made em happy — one in which e had a penis, and another in which e was growing a beard. E describes eir “high school coming out journey” (94), in which e realized e liked both boys and girls but felt unable to choose a sexual identity, though e ultimately began telling people e was bisexual. E...