Book 1, Either/Or : Chapter 4, Aesthetic Validity of Marriage Summary and Analysis

Here the author takes on the wedding ceremony. He is assuming a Danish Lutheran ceremony. He writes that there may well be a major difference between the way he really feels and what the wedding is like. One example is that he writes that his wife may be a woman to whom he submits wholeheartedly. Due to this, he has a rather bad reaction to the official vows that wrongly claim that he is supposed to be her leader. He writes that the vow regarding who should obey who is completely backwards: that he will obey his wife, and should but that for some reason the wedding vows state a role reversal of this.

Next, Kierkegaard writes about his feelings of devotion to her. He writes that...