How to Measure Success with Boundaries Summary and Analysis

In this chapter, the authors set forth steps to measure this success of one's boundaries. First, one must recognize resentment as a warning that something threatens one's boundaries. Resentment at its heart is anger. The next step mandates changing one's tastes; including finding a group that supports one's new boundaries. Such a move may require significant change. Along with that, the third step encourages attachment to one's support group or "new family".

In step four, one defines one's treasures and mandates guarding the treasures. One must realize the impossibility of loving without receiving love as a biblical principle. Next, on must practice baby "no's", as training wheels for more important boundaries later. Contrary to instinct, one can rejoice in feelings of guilt, because they show progress. After this, one can move...