Chapter 6 - Restoring Trust Summary and Analysis

Chapter 6 is of average length and focuses primarily on individual behavior. As an individual cannot control another, the only way to restore trust is change personal behavior in order to demonstrate personal trustworthiness. The text suggests that if an individual behaves in a trustworthy manner, eventually trust will be restored. The chapter is divided into two parts: the first focuses on methods to change behavior, and the second focuses on overcoming resistance to personal change. Logically, the chapter focuses on the behavior of the unfaithful partner but does note that the hurt partner should also participate.

Behavioral change is critical for successfully rehabilitating a post-affair relationship. Obviously, trust has been destroyed and doubt is prevalent in any such situation. Individual behaviors which detract from trust must be eliminated, and more importantly, individual behaviors which create...