by Carl Wayne Hensley

About the author: Carl Wayne Hensley is a professor of communications at Bethel College in St. Paul, Minnesota and adjunct professor at the University of St. Thomas.

Editor's note: The following viewpoint was originally delivered as a speech before the graduate students in the Graduate School of Business at the University of St. Thomas in Minneapolis, Minnesota, on October 18, 1993.

When my wife filed for divorce, her attorney told her to go home and negotiate the division of the personal property with me. He told her that it would save her money. So, she was willing to negotiate with me on the house, the cars, the rental property, the antiques, and other tangible things. When we finished, both of us were satisfied with the division because we had...