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This test consists of 5 short answer questions, 10 short essay questions, and 1 (of 3) essay topics.

Short Answer Questions

1. The majority of the blame for an affair belongs to whom?

2. A graph is provided for couples to chart behaviors that can be preformed in which timeframe?

3. If the listener repeats the ideas back to the speaker, they are using which technique?

4. A list is provided in Chapter 8 to help people understand the common areas of shame associated with which of the following?

5. How should behaviors that detract from trust be addressed?

Short Essay Questions

1. Why is intimate talk necessary to learn?

2. Who must change in a relationship to build trust again?

3. Why do people typically exhibit behaviors in their comfort zone?

4. If children do not value themselves, what could happen during their marriage as adults?

5. What are some assumptions a hurt partner could make about sexual intimacy?

6. What are some assumptions an unfaithful partner could make about sexual intimacy?

7. What should happen with behaviors that violate trust in a relationship?

8. What action must the unfaithful partner take for intimate talk to be successful?

9. Why does the author recommend a 'covenant of promises' at the end of Chapter 9?

10. If an individual is working to forgive, how can they address the negative behaviors of their partner?

Essay Topics

Write an essay for ONE of the following topics:

Essay Topic 1

Choose a case study from the book involving a couple post-affair and a religious leader. Analyze this case study from the point of view of the religious leader.

Explain how the religious leader would advise the couple to work towards rebuilding their relationship based on the advice from the book. Make sure to include three steps the religious leader should advise the couple to take.

Essay Topic 2

Compare and contrast five responses on the part of the hurt partner vs. the unfaithful partner after the disclosure of an affair.

Essay Topic 3

Consider the low-cost behaviors suggested by the author which can change behavior post-affair.

Compare and contrast the effectiveness of changing these behaviors to the high-cost behaviors suggested.

How could these changes positively affect a relationship after the discovery of an affair?

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