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This test consists of 5 short answer questions, 10 short essay questions, and 1 (of 3) essay topics.

Short Answer Questions

1. After the affair is discovered, how does the unfaithful partner typically react to the repeated lying in which they had been engaging?

2. After making a difficult decision between the hurt partner and the lover, the unfaithful partner may begin to doubt what about themselves?

3. Using mental time projection will help the partners accomplish which task?

4. The most fundamental situation faced by the partners in a marriage post-affair is which of the following?

5. After closer examination, the rationalizations used by the unfaithful partner to justify the affair often can be described in which way?

Short Essay Questions

1. Why do couples often feel they are incompatible?

2. How is unrequited love described?

3. Why do hurt partners blame God for their suffering?

4. How does the author characterize an affair?

5. When an affair is discovered, what is the effect on the hurt partner?

6. Where do unrealistic expectations of love and marriage come from?

7. How is romantic love described?

8. What steps does the author take to minimize emotionally-charged labels associated with the affair?

9. Why does the author recommend using a mental time projection to envision where the relationship will be?

10. How must the affair be analyzed in order to move forward in building trust in the relationship?

Essay Topics

Write an essay for ONE of the following topics:

Essay Topic 1

Discuss how an affair can be understood in context with a timeline of critical life events.

Include three critical life events that could influence the timing of an affair.

Essay Topic 2

Lack of communication is a key issue in the problems experienced during a marriage.

How does the lack of communication apply to the problems experienced by a couple with sexual intimacy issues?

Cite three examples and discuss how couples can work through these communication challenges.

Essay Topic 3

Choose a case study from the book involving a couple post-affair and a religious leader. Analyze this case study from the point of view of the religious leader.

Explain how the religious leader would advise the couple to work towards rebuilding their relationship based on the advice from the book. Make sure to include three steps the religious leader should advise the couple to take.

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