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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. Exploring and learning about the affair is achieved through which process?
(a) Forgiving the unfaithful partner.
(b) Intimate talk.
(c) Open communication.
(d) Accepting the affair.

2. What is the root cause of the majority of marital dysfunction?
(a) Incompatable personalities.
(b) Failure to communicate.
(c) Financial disagreements.
(d) Extramarital affairs.

3. How does the book view sex tools?
(a) Integral to maintaining the excitement in intimacy.
(b) Unnecessary if the marriage is working.
(c) Healthy if acceptable to both partners.
(d) Dangerous if used only with the lover.

4. Why do unfaithful partners feel pressure to perform sex at a high satisfactory level with their partner?
(a) To regain sexual intimacy with the hurt partner.
(b) To avoid the hurt partner fearing the affair is continuing.
(c) To prove the marriage is worth salvaging.
(d) To compensate for the loss of the lover.

5. An accident or illness are examples of which root cause of an affair?
(a) Fear of losing a partner.
(b) Childhood experiences.
(c) Critical life events.
(d) Unfair circumstances.

6. How should behaviors that detract from trust be addressed?
(a) They should be eliminated.
(b) They should be ignored.
(c) They should be analyzed.
(d) They should be embraced.

7. A list is provided in Chapter 8 to help people understand the common areas of shame associated with which of the following?
(a) Their fantasies.
(b) Their expectations.
(c) Their bodies.
(d) Their desires.

8. After an emotional confrontation, how do women typically feel?
(a) More intimate with their partner.
(b) More accepting of the affair.
(c) More likely to forgive.
(d) More vulnerable to pain.

9. How does the text refer to childhood experiences?
(a) Key stages of life.
(b) Formative development years.
(c) Important relationship history.
(d) Critical growth experiences.

10. A listener should not engage in which action?
(a) Asking for clarification.
(b) Remaining silent.
(c) Ignoring.
(d) Arguing.

11. If forgiveness is offered too quickly, how can it affect the individual?
(a) It can trigger childhood memories.
(b) It can deepen the pain of the affair.
(c) It can damage their self-esteem.
(d) It can affect their personal identity.

12. Couples often assume that sexual desire should be experienced in which way by each partner?
(a) With the same fantasies.
(b) With the same intensity.
(c) With the same duration.
(d) With the same frequency.

13. What is the process of assaulting a partner with verbal abuse?
(a) Storm.
(b) Anger.
(c) Fear.
(d) Rage.

14. What will happen to conflict after forgiveness?
(a) It will not be eliminated.
(b) It may be avoided.
(c) It could increase.
(d) It should dissipate.

15. If sexual desires change, couples may assume this will lead to which outcome?
(a) Avoiding sex.
(b) Unrealistic expectations.
(c) Hurt feelings.
(d) Decrease in sexual intimacy.

Short Answer Questions

1. How is masturbation viewed by the text?

2. What does the first part of chapter six focus on?

3. Intimate listening can be described as which skill?

4. A hurt partner may avoid demanding change if they feel it will lead to which situation?

5. Analyzing childhood experiences can lead to which result in a marriage?

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