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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. According to Chapter 3, how should irrational or erroneous thoughts should be treated?
(a) Ignored.
(b) Reconsidered.
(c) Trusted.
(d) Abadoned.

2. How is the religious faith of hurt partners affected after an affair?
(a) They blame God for their suffering.
(b) They reject the sacredness of marriage.
(c) They convert to a different religion.
(d) They find solace in church.

3. If a hurt partner attempts to win back the unfaithful partner, what is the psychological effect on the hurt partner?
(a) They lose their sense of self-respect.
(b) They lose their will to try in the relationship.
(c) They are angry at the lover.
(d) They are devastated by the affair.

4. Women typically view an affair in which way compared with men?
(a) Complicating and difficult.
(b) Sad and lonely.
(c) Healthy and necessary.
(d) Fun and distracting.

5. If a couple does not adequately communicate their desires and needs, they may begin to view each other in which way?
(a) Judgmental.
(b) Detached.
(c) Dissimilar.
(d) Unsupportive.

6. How do unfaithful partners typically manage their anxiety?
(a) Disengage from the marriage even further.
(b) Attempt to understand the feelings of the hurt partner.
(c) Arrange to see their lover more frequently.
(d) Become involved in a wide range of activities.

7. The feeling of romantic love can lead the unfaithful partner to take which action?
(a) Choose the lover over the hurt partner.
(b) Begin a new affair with another lover.
(c) Decide not to disclose the affair.
(d) Continue the affair after recommiting to the partner.

8. After making a difficult decision between the hurt partner and the lover, the unfaithful partner may begin to doubt what about themselves?
(a) Their sexual confidence.
(b) Their decision.
(c) Their personal identity.
(d) Their feelings.

9. Warning signs that the unfaithful partner is likely to pursue future affairs include which behavior?
(a) A tendency to distance themselves from the children.
(b) A pattern of staying late after work.
(c) A lack of communication about their whereabouts.
(d) An inability to emphathize with the hurt partner.

10. Although many hurt partners feel that 'good things happen to good people,' how does the discovery of the affair affect this sentiment?
(a) They become aware their partner is not a good person.
(b) They hold tightly to the idea that good things will come their way.
(c) They must abandon their common, fundamental beliefs.
(d) They believe they did something wrong to bring on the affair.

11. If the disenchantment felt in an aging relationship is mismanaged, it can lead to which result?
(a) Jealousy and anger.
(b) Temporary separation.
(c) An extramarital affair.
(d) Bitterness and resentment.

12. A loss of sense of purpose can lead to which outcome for the hurt partner?
(a) Suicidal thoughts.
(b) Taking the children.
(c) Wanting a divorce.
(d) Withdrawing sexually.

13. Who is the book's primary audience?
(a) A lover who wants to beging a new relationship outside the affair.
(b) An unfaithful partner who is unsure about the status of their marriage.
(c) A couple who want to rebuild their relationship after an affair.
(d) A hurt partner who wants to get even with the unfaithful partner.

14. On what are relationships based?
(a) Common goals and desires.
(b) Family and commitment.
(c) Trust and love.
(d) Respect and friendship.

15. Using mental time projection will help the partners accomplish which task?
(a) Let go of past infidelities.
(b) Rekindle their sexual intimacy.
(c) Focus on the rebuilding process.
(d) Forgive the unfaithful partner.

Short Answer Questions

1. When hurt partners engage in obsession behaviors, how is this related to the discovery of the affair?

2. Who is the book's secondary audience?

3. Unrealistic expectations are often the result of which experiences?

4. After a decision is made, what must the couple do next to rebuild their relationship?

5. Most relationships begin with which emotion?

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