of an old one, we must take care to
launch ourselves
with as strong and decided
an initiative as possible.
Accumulate all the possible circumstances which shall
reinforce the right motives; put yourself assiduously
in conditions that encourage the new way; make engagements
incompatible with the old; take a public pledge, if
the case allows; in short, envelop your resolution
with every aid you know. This will give your
new beginning such a momentum that the temptation
to break down will not occur as soon as it otherwise
might; and every day during which a breakdown is postponed
adds to the chances of its not occurring at all.
“The second maxim is:
Never suffer
an exception to occur till
the new habit is securely
rooted in your life. Each
lapse is like the letting fall of a ball of string
which one is carefully winding up; a single slip undoes
more than a great many turns will wind again.
The need of securing success at the
outset is
imperative. Failure at first is apt to dampen
the energy of all future attempts, whereas past experience
of success nerves one to future vigor. It is surprising
how soon a desire will die of inanition if it be
never
fed. “A third maxim may be added to the
preceding pair:
Seize the very
first possible opportunity to
act on every resolution you
make,
and on every emotional
prompting you may experience in
the direction of the habits
you aspire to gain. It is
not in the moment of their forming, but in the moment
of their producing
motor effects that resolves
and aspirations communicate the new ‘set’
to the brain.”]
(2) It is an excellent thing to do a little gratuitous
spiritual exercise every day, just to keep in training,
to get the habit of conquering impulse, of doing disagreeable
things. Nothing is more useful to a man than
that power. We must not let our lives get too
easy and our wills too soft. To jump out of bed
when the whistle blows, instead of dawdling just for
a minute more in indolent comfort, to make one’s
self take the cold bath that is abhorrent to the flesh,
to deny one’s self the cigar or the candy that
may not be in itself particularly harmful-by some
means or other to keep one’s self in the saddle
and riding one’s desires, may enable one when
some crisis comes to thrust aside a man too fatally
accustomed to doing things in the easiest way.