clergyman’s wife, and, being young and inexperienced,
declares his feelings, and claims that he, and not
the clergyman, is the more suitable mate for the lady.
The clergyman, who has a temper, is first tempted
to hurl the youth into the street by bodily violence:
an impulse natural, perhaps, but vulgar and improper,
and, not open, on consideration, to decent men.
Even coarse and inconsiderate men are restrained from
it by the fact that the sympathy of the woman turns
naturally to the victim of physical brutality and
against the bully, the Thackerayan notion to the contrary
being one of the illusions of literary masculinity.
Besides, the husband is not necessarily the stronger
man: an appeal to force has resulted in the ignominious
defeat of the husband quite as often as in poetic
justice as conceived in the conventional novelet.
What an honorable and sensible man does when his household
is invaded is what the Reverend James Mavor Morell
does in my play. He recognizes that just as there
is not room for two women in that sacredly intimate
relation of sentimental domesticity which is what
marriage means to him, so there is no room for two
men in that relation with his wife; and he accordingly
tells her firmly that she must choose which man will
occupy the place that is large enough for one only.
He is so far shrewdly unconventional as to recognize
that if she chooses the other man, he must give way,
legal tie or no legal tie; but he knows that either
one or the other must go. And a sensible wife
would act in the same way. If a romantic young
lady came into her house and proposed to adore her
husband on a tolerated footing, she would say “My
husband has not room in his life for two wives:
either you go out of the house or I go out of it.”
The situation is not at all unlikely: I had almost
said not at all unusual. Young ladies and gentlemen
in the greensickly condition which is called calf-love,
associating with married couples at dangerous periods
of mature life, quite often find themselves in it;
and the extreme reluctance of proud and sensitive people
to avoid any assertion of matrimonial rights, or to
condescend to jealousy, sometimes makes the threatened
husband or wife hesitate to take prompt steps and
do the apparently conventional thing. But whether
they hesitate or act the result is always the same.
In a real marriage of sentiment the wife or husband
cannot be supplanted by halves; and such a marriage
will break very soon under the strain of polygyny
or polyandry. What we want at present is a sufficiently
clear teaching of this fact to ensure that prompt
and decisive action shall always be taken in such cases
without any false shame of seeming conventional (a
shame to which people capable of such real marriage
are specially susceptible), and a rational divorce
law to enable the marriage to be dissolved and the
parties honorably resorted and recoupled without disgrace
and scandal if that should prove the proper solution.