It would be hard to find any document in practical daily use in which these obvious truths seem so stupidly overlooked as they are in the marriage service.  As we have seen, the stupidity is only apparent:  the service was really only an honest attempt to make the best of a commercial contract of property and slavery by subjecting it to some religious restraint and elevating it by some touch of poetry.  But the actual result is that when two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part.  And though of course nobody expects them to do anything so impossible and so unwholesome, yet the law that regulates their relations, and the public opinion that regulates that law, is actually founded on the assumption that the marriage vow is not only feasible but beautiful and holy, and that if they are false to it, they deserve no sympathy and no relief.  If all married people really lived together, no doubt the mere force of facts would make an end to this inhuman nonsense in a month, if not sooner; but it is very seldom brought to that test.  The typical British husband sees much less of his wife than he does of his business partner, his fellow clerk, or whoever works beside him day by day.  Man and wife do not as a rule, live together:  they only breakfast together, dine together, and sleep in the same room.  In most cases the woman knows nothing of the man’s working life and he knows nothing of her working life (he calls it her home life).  It is remarkable that the very people who romance most absurdly about the closeness and sacredness of the marriage tie are also those who are most convinced that the man’s sphere and the woman’s sphere are so entirely separate that only in their leisure moments can they ever be together.  A man as intimate with his own wife as a magistrate is with his clerk, or a Prime Minister with the leader of the Opposition, is a man in ten thousand.  The majority of married couples never get to know one another at all:  they only get accustomed to having the same house, the same children, and the same income, which is quite a different matter.  The comparatively few men who work at home—­writers, artists, and to some extent clergymen—­have to effect some sort of segregation within the house or else run a heavy risk of overstraining their domestic relations.  When the pair is so poor that it can afford only a single room, the strain is intolerable:  violent quarrelling is the result.  Very few couples can live in a single-roomed tenement without exchanging blows quite frequently.  In the leisured classes there is often no real family life at all.  The boys are at a public school; the girls are in the schoolroom in charge of a governess; the husband is at his club or in a set which is not his wife’s; and the institution of marriage enjoys the credit of a domestic