The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 295 pages of information about The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions.

The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 295 pages of information about The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions.

Informal afternoon teas.  These are the usual afternoon
       teas.  By formal afternoon teas are
       meant those for which specially engraved
       cards have been issued, and at which all the
       arrangements are more elaborate.

         See afternoon teas.

Interior, Secretary of—­how addressed. An official
       letter begins:  Sir, and ends:  I have, sir, the
       honor to remain your most obedient servant.

A social letter begins:  My dear Mr. Wilson,
and ends:  I have the honor to remain most
sincerely yours.

       The address on the envelope is:  Hon. John
       J. Wilson, Secretary Of The Interior.

Introductions.  One should be careful in making introductions. 
       It is easier to evade than to cause
       disagreeable complications.  It is unpardonable
       to introduce one party to another after
       having been warned not to do so.

Forgetting a person’s name when about to introduce is awkward, and when it does occur, one should apologize and ask name.  If a person fails to hear the name, it is proper to inform the one to whom you are introduced and to say:  “Pardon me, but I failed to hear your name.”  In making introductions one should distinctly pronounce the names.
Parents should not speak of or introduce their children as Miss Anna, but simply my daughter Anna.  Only before servants should they be spoken of as Miss Anna.
Persons of celebrity should have introductions made to them.  Men should always be introduced to women, the younger to an elder person, and unmarried persons to the married.  Persons at an entertainment are introduced to the guest of the occasion.
Women and men on being introduced may shake hands, but it is not good form.  A polite bow, a smile, and friendly recognition is more correct.
Those invited to an entertainment are on equal footing; it is therefore not necessary to introduce one to another.  Conversation may be held without this formality, though introductions may take place if desired.  When an introduction occurs, future recognition is not warranted.  For this reason great care should be exercised at entertainments that only those who are congenial to each other should be brought together.

       At small gatherings it is more kindly to
       introduce.  When many are present, it is not
       customary to do so.

       Introductions should not take place in a
       church or on the steps.

It is quite proper to introduce one group to another without formality at any outdoor function—­athletic games, etc.  Such introductions need not imply further acquaintance if undesirable.

  Dancing.  The man must be introduced to the
       woman, and he should ask her for the privilege
       of a dance.

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