To call
on an acquaintance in an opera
box does
not relieve one of the duty of making
a formal
call in return for social favors.
When calling on the hostess but not on the host, a man should leave a card for him. If the hostess be out, he should leave two cards.
Married men can return their social obligations to women by personal calls, or the women of the family can leave the men’s cards with their own.
A call should be made the day following a luncheon or a breakfast; the same after a dinner, or at least within a week. A call should be made within a week after a ball.
After a theatre party given by a man, he should call within three days on the woman he escorted, or leave his card, and should call within a week on the remainder of his guests.
Men calling on men.
At the beginning of
the season
it is usual to leave a card for each
member of
a family called on—one card for
husband,
wife, “misses,” and guest, or rest
of the family.
Sometimes two cards answer
the purpose.
They may be sent by mail or messenger.
Men calling on women.
A man should call
only on
“At Home” days, especially when
making the
first call, unless specially invited.
He should
call at the hour appointed.
When no special day for receiving is indicated, calls may be made at any proper hour, according to the custom of the locality. Men of leisure may call at the fashionable hours —from two till five o’clock.
Business and professional men may call between eight and nine o’clock, as their obligations prevent them from observing the fashionable hours.
A business
man may call in street dress
before six
o’clock, and the same dress in the
evening,
if intimately acquainted.
Informal calls may be made on Sunday after three o’clock by business and professional men, provided there are no religious or other scruples on the part of those receiving the calls.
Evening
or other than mere formal calls
should not
be made, save by special invitation.
The first
call should last not longer than
ten or fifteen
minutes. It is correct to ask
for all
the women of the family.
At the first call he should give his card at the door. At following calls it is optional whether to give a card or merely the name, asking at the same time for the person one desires to see. When the servant’s intelligence seems doubtful, or the name is an unusual one, it is safer to give a card.
When a woman invites a man to call without specifying when, it is not considered