Announcing guests. The
hostess decides
whether
or not the guests are to be announced.
At public
balls it is customary.
Answering invitations.
These should be answered
immediately,
and if declined, the
ticket should
be returned.
Arriving at. There is no
set rule when guests
should arrive.
In the city, guests should arrive anywhere between eleven and twelve, and in the country, fifteen minutes after the hour set in the invitation.
Asking women to dance.
A man asks for
the privilege
of a dance either with the
daughter
of the hostess, with any guest of
the latter,
or with any young woman receiving
with her.
On being
introduced to a woman, he may
ask her
for a dance, and should be punctual
in keeping
the engagement.
It is her privilege to end the dance at any moment she wishes, after which he should conduct her to her chaperone or find a seat for her, after which he is at liberty to go elsewhere.
If for any cause a man has to break his engagements to dance, he should personally explain the matter to every woman with whom he has an engagement and make a suitable apology.
Balls, assembly. The etiquette at an
assembly
ball is
much the same as at a private ball,
the functions
and duties of the hostess being
filled by
a committee of women selected for
that purpose.
On entering
the room, the guests bow to
the committee
and pass on.
It is not
necessary to take leave of the
committee.
Carriage. A man should provide
a carriage
in which
to call for the woman he escorts
and her
chaperone.
Chaperones. For a small ball
given in a private
house, the
hostess need not invite the mothers
of the young
women, and the young women
can properly
attend, knowing that the hostess
will act
as a chaperone.
But at a large ball it is necessary to invite the mother as well as the daughters, and the chaperone as well as the debutante under her care. The mother can send regrets for herself, and send her daughters in care of a maid. Or she can attend, and, after remaining a suitable time, she may entrust her daughter to the care of a chaperone who intends to remain the whole evening.
BALLS FOR DEBUTANTE.
Dress. A debutante should dress
in white or
some extremely
delicate color, and wear very
little jewelry—some
simple brooch or single
piece of
jewelry, or a slender chain of pearls.