from which the temper comes, and so far from being tame, life has more for us.  We do not tire ourselves and lose nervous force through the wear and tear of losing our temper.  To speak expressively, if not scientifically, Let go, and let the temper slip over your nerves and off,—­you do not lose it then, for you know where it is, and you keep all the nervous force that would have been used in suppression or expression for better work.

That, the reader will say, is not so easy as it sounds.  Granted, there must be the desire to get a true control of the temper; but most of us have that desire, and while we cannot expect immediate success, steady practice will bring startling results sooner than we realize.  There must be a clear, intelligent understanding of what we are aiming at, and how to gain it; but that is not difficult, and once recognized grows steadily as we gain practical results.  Let the first feeling of anger be a reminder to “let go.”  But you will say, “I do not want to let go,”—­only because your various grandfathers and grandmothers were unaccustomed to relieving themselves in that manner.  When we give way to anger and let it out in a volley of words, there is often a sense of relief, but more often a reaction which is most unpleasant, and is greatly increased by the pain given to others.  The relief is certain if we “relax;” and not only is there then no painful reaction, but we gain a clear head to recognize the justice or injustice of our indignation, and to see what can be done about its cause.

Petty irritability can be met in the same way.  As with nervous pain it seems at first impossible to “relax to it;” but the Rubicon once crossed, we cannot long be irritable,—­it is so much simpler not to be, and so much more comfortable.

If when we are tempted to fly into a rage or to snap irritably at others we could go through a short process of relaxing motions, the effect would be delightful.  But that would be ridiculous; and we must do our relaxing in the privacy of the closet and recall it when needed outside, that we may relax without observation except in its happy results.  I know people will say that anything to divert the mind will cure a high temper or irritability.  That is only so to a limited extent; and so far as it is so, simply proves the best process of control.  Diversion relieves the nervous excitement, turning the attention in another direction,—­and so is relaxing so far as it goes.

Much quicker and easier than self-control is the control which allows us to meet the irritability of others without echoing it.  The temptation to echo a bad temper or an irritable disposition in others, we all know; but the relief which comes to ourselves and to the sufferer as we quietly relax and refuse to reflect it, is a sensation that many of us have yet to experience.  One keeps a clear head in that way, not to mention a charitable heart; saves any quantity of nervous strain, and keeps off just so much tendency to nervous prostration.