the characters of men, as books can do. I mean,
’Les Reflections Morales de Monsieur de la Rochefoucault,
and Les Caracteres de la Bruyere’: but remember,
at the same time, that I only recommend them to you
as the best general maps to assist you in your journey,
and not as marking out every particular turning and
winding that you will meet with. There your own
sagacity and observation must come to their aid.
La Rochefoucault, is, I know, blamed, but I think
without reason, for deriving all our actions from the
source of self-love. For my own part, I see a
great deal of truth, and no harm at all, in that opinion.
It is certain that we seek our own happiness in everything
we do; and it is as certain, that we can only find
it in doing well, and in conforming all our, actions
to the rule of right reason, which is the great law
of nature. It is only a mistaken self-love that
is a blamable motive, when we take the immediate and
indiscriminate gratification of a passion, or appetite,
for real happiness. But am I blamable if I do
a good action, upon account of the happiness which
that honest consciousness will give me? Surely
not. On the contrary, that pleasing consciousness
is a proof of my virtue. The reflection which
is the most censured in Monsieur de la Rochefoucault’s
book as a very ill-natured one, is this, ’On
trouve dans le malheur de son meilleur ami, quelque
chose qui ne des plait pas’. And why not?
Why may I not feel a very tender and real concern
for the misfortune of my friend, and yet at the same
time feel a pleasing consciousness at having discharged
my duty to him, by comforting and assisting him to
the utmost of my power in that misfortune? Give
me but virtuous actions, and I will not quibble and
chicane about the motives. And I will give anybody
their choice of these two truths, which amount to
the same thing: He who loves himself best is
the honestest man; or, The honestest man loves himself
best.
The characters of La Bruyere are pictures from the
life; most of them finely drawn, and highly colored.
Furnish your mind with them first, and when you meet
with their likeness, as you will every day, they will
strike you the more. You will compare every feature
with the original; and both will reciprocally help
you to discover the beauties and the blemishes.
As women are a considerable, or, at least a pretty
numerous part of company; and as their suffrages go
a great way toward establishing a man’s character
in the fashionable part of the world (which is of great
importance to the fortune and figure he proposes to
make in it), it is necessary to please them.
I will therefore, upon this subject, let you into
certain Arcana that will be very useful for you to
know, but which you must, with the utmost care, conceal
and never seem to know. Women, then, are only
children of a larger growth; they have an entertaining
tattle, and sometimes wit; but for solid reasoning,
good sense, I never knew in my life one that had it,