avez embrasse si tendrement? Pour cela, l’accolade
a ete charmante’; with a great deal more festivity
of that sort. To this I should answer, without
being the least ashamed, but en badinant: O je
ne vous dirai tas qui c’est; c’est un
petit ami que je tiens incognito, qui a son merite,
et qui, a force d’etre connu, fait oublier sa
figure. Que me donnerez-vous, et je vous le presenterai’?
And then, with a little more seriousness, I would
add: ’Mais d’ailleurs c’est
que je ne desavoue jamais mes connoissances, a cause
de leur etat ou de leur figure. Il faut avoir
bien peu de sentimens pour le faire’. This
would at once put an end to that momentary pleasantry,
and give them all a better opinion of me than they
had before. Suppose another case, and that some
of the finest ladies ‘du bon ton’ should
come into a room, and find you sitting by, and talking
politely to ‘la vieille’ Marquise de Bellefonds,
the joke would, for a moment, turn upon that ‘tete-a-tete’:
He bien! avez vous a la fin fixd la belle Marquise?
La partie est-elle faite pour la petite maison?
Le souper sera galant sans doute: Mais ne faistu
donc point scrupule de seduire une jeune et aimable
persone comme celle-la’? To this I should
answer: ’La partie n’etoit pas encore
tout-a fait liee, vous nous avez interrompu; mais
avec le tems que fait-on? D’ailleurs moquezvous
de mes amours tant qu’il vous plaira, je vous
dirai que je respecte tant les jeunes dames, que je
respecte meme les vieilles, pour l’avoir ete.
Apre cela il y a souvent des liaisons entre les vieilles
et les jeunes’. This would at once turn
the pleasantry into an esteem for your good sense and
your good-breeding. Pursue steadily, and without
fear or shame, whatever your reason tells you is right,
and what you see is practiced by people of more experience
than yourself, and of established characters of good
sense and good-breeding.
After all this, perhaps you will say, that it is impossible
to please everybody. I grant it; but it does
not follow that one should not therefore endeavor
to please as many as one can. Nay, I will go further,
and admit that it is impossible for any man not to
have some enemies. But this truth from long experience
I assert, that he who has the most friends and the
fewest enemies, is the strongest; will rise the highest
with the least envy; and fall, if he does fall, the
gentlest, and the most pitied. This is surely
an object worth pursuing. Pursue it according
to the rules I have here given you. I will add
one observation more, and two examples to enforce
it; and then, as the parsons say, conclude.
There is no one creature so obscure, so low, or so
poor, who may not, by the strange and unaccountable
changes and vicissitudes of human affairs, somehow
or other, and some time or other, become an useful
friend or a trouble-some enemy, to the greatest and
the richest. The late Duke of Ormond was almost
the weakest but at the same time the best-bred, and
most popular man in this kingdom. His education