head (which, by the way, very seldom is the case),
really reform in a more advanced age, from a consciousness
of its folly, as well as of its guilt; such a conversion
would only be thought prudential and political, but
never sincere. I hope in God, and I verily. believe,
that you want no moral virtue. But the possession
of all the moral virtues, in ‘actu primo’,
as the logicians call it, is not sufficient; you must
have them in ‘actu secundo’ too; nay, that
is not sufficient neither—you must have
the reputation of them also. Your character in
the world must be built upon that solid foundation,
or it will soon fall, and upon your own head.
You cannot, therefore, be too careful, too nice, too
scrupulous, in establishing this character at first,
upon which your whole depends. Let no conversation,
no example, no fashion, no ‘bon mot’,
no silly desire of seeming to be above, what most
knaves, and many fools, call prejudices, ever tempt
you to avow, excuse, extenuate, or laugh at the least
breach of morality; but show upon all occasions, and
take all occasions to show, a detestation and abhorrence
of it. There, though young, you ought to be strict;
and there only, while young, it becomes you to be
strict and severe. But there, too, spare the
persons while you lash the crimes. All this relates,
as you easily judge, to the vices of the heart, such
as lying, fraud, envy, malice, detraction,
etc.,
and I do not extend it to the little frailties of
youth, flowing from high spirits and warm blood.
It would ill become you, at your age, to declaim against
them, and sententiously censure a gallantry, an accidental
excess of the table, a frolic, an inadvertency; no,
keep as free from them yourself as you can: but
say nothing against them in others. They certainly
mend by time, often by reason; and a man’s worldly
character is not affected by them, provided it be pure
in all other respects.
To come now to a point of much less, but yet of very
great consequence at your first setting out.
Be extremely upon your guard against vanity, the common
failing of inexperienced youth; but particularly against
that kind of vanity that dubs a man a coxcomb; a character
which, once acquired, is more indelible than that
of the priesthood. It is not to be imagined by
how many different ways vanity defeats its own purposes.
One man decides peremptorily upon every subject, betrays
his ignorance upon many, and shows a disgusting presumption
upon the rest. Another desires to appear successful
among the women; he hints at the encouragement he has
received, from those of the most distinguished rank
and beauty, and intimates a particular connection
with some one; if it is true, it is ungenerous; if
false, it is infamous: but in either case he destroys
the reputation he wants to get. Some flatter
their vanity by little extraneous objects, which have
not the least relation to themselves; such as being
descended from, related to, or acquainted with, people