those people, and to see their inside; In order to
judge of men, one must be intimately connected; thus
you see them without, a veil, and with their mere
every-day merit. A happy expression! It was
for this reason that I have so often advised you to
establish and domesticate yourself, wherever you can,
in good houses of people above you, that you may see
their every-day character, manners, habits,
etc. One must see people undressed to judge
truly of their shape; when they are dressed to go abroad,
their clothes are contrived to conceal, or at least
palliate the defects of it: as full-bottomed
wigs were contrived for the Duke of Burgundy, to conceal
his hump back. Happy those who have no faults
to disguise, nor weaknesses to conceal! there are
few, if any such; but unhappy those who know little
enough of the world to judge by outward appearances.
Courts are the best keys to characters; there every
passion is busy, every art exerted, every character
analyzed; jealousy, ever watchful, not only discovers,
but exposes, the mysteries of the trade, so that even
bystanders ’y apprennent a deviner’.
There too the great art of pleasing is practiced,
taught, and learned with all its graces and delicacies.
It is the first thing needful there: It is the
absolutely necessary harbinger of merit and talents,
let them be ever so great. There is no advancing
a step without it. Let misanthropes and would-be
philosophers declaim as much as they please against
the vices, the simulation, and dissimulation of courts;
those invectives are always the result of ignorance,
ill-humor, or envy. Let them show me a cottage,
where there are not the same vices of which they accuse
courts; with this difference only, that in a cottage
they appear in their native deformity, and that in
courts, manners and good-breeding make them less shocking,
and blunt their edge. No, be convinced that the
good-breeding, the ’tournure, la douceur dans
les manieres’, which alone are to be acquired
at courts, are not the showish trifles only which
some people call or think them; they are a solid good;
they prevent a great deal of real mischief; they create,
adorn, and strengthen friendships; they keep hatred
within bounds; they promote good-humor and good-will
in families, where the want of good-breeding and gentleness
of manners is commonly the original cause of discord.
Get then, before it is too late, a habit of these
‘mitiores virtutes’: practice them
upon every, the least occasion, that they may be easy
and familiar to you upon the greatest; for they lose
a great degree of their merit if they seem labored,
and only called in upon extraordinary occasions.
I tell you truly, this is now the only doubtful part
of your character with me; and it is for that reason
that I dwell upon it so much, and inculcate it so
often. I shall soon see whether this doubt of
mine is founded; or rather I hope I shall soon see
that it is not.
This moment I receive your letter of the 9th N. S. I am sorry to find that you have had, though ever so slight a return of your Carniolan disorder; and I hope your conclusion will prove a true one, and that this will be the last. I will send the mohairs by the first opportunity. As for the pictures, I am already so full, that I am resolved not to buy one more, unless by great accident I should meet with something surprisingly good, and as surprisingly cheap.