be respected by any administration, and make a figure in the public.  The other sort of connections I call unequal ones; that is, where the parts are all on one side, and the rank and fortune on the other.  Here, the advantage is all on one side; but that advantage must be ably and artfully concealed.  Complaisance, an engaging manner, and a patient toleration of certain airs of superiority, must cement them.  The weaker party must be taken by the heart, his head giving no hold; and he must be governed by being made to believe that he governs.  These people, skillfully led, give great weight to their leader.  I have formerly pointed out to you a couple that I take to be proper objects for your skill; and you will meet with twenty more, for they are very rife.

The other person whom I recommended to you is a woman; not as a woman, for that is not immediately my business; besides, I fear that she is turned of fifty.  It is Lady Hervey, whom I directed you to call upon at Dijon, but who, to my great joy, because to your great advantage, passes all this winter at Paris.  She has been bred all her life at courts; of which she has acquired all the easy good-breeding and politeness, without the frivolousness.  She has all the reading that a woman should have; and more than any woman need have; for she understands Latin perfectly well, though she wisely conceals it.  As she will look upon you as her son, I desire that you will look upon her as my delegate:  trust, consult, and apply to her without reserve.  No woman ever had more than she has, ’le ton de la parfaitement bonne compagnie, les manieres engageantes, et le je ne sais quoi qui plait’.  Desire her to reprove and correct any, and every, the least error and in-, accuracy in your manners, air, address, etc.  No woman in Europe can do it so well; none will do it more willingly, or in a more proper and obliging manner.  In such a case she will not put you out of countenance, by telling you of it in company; but either intimate it by some sign, or wait for an opportunity when you are alone together.  She is also in the best French company, where she will not only introduce but Puff you, if I may use so low a word.  And I can assure you that it is no little help, in the ‘beau monde’, to be puffed there by a fashionable woman.  I send you the inclosed billet to carry her, only as a certificate of the identity of your person, which I take it for granted she could not know again.

You would be so much surprised to receive a whole letter from me without any mention of the exterior ornaments necessary for a gentleman, as manners, elocution, air, address, graces, etc., that, to comply with your expectations, I will touch upon them; and tell you, that when you come to England, I will show you some people, whom I do not now care to name, raised to the highest stations singly by those exterior and adventitious ornaments, whose parts would never have entitled them to the smallest office in the excise.