you?  Nothing but the knowledge, the turn, and the manners of the world; I mean the ‘beau monde’.  These it is impossible that you can yet have quite right; they are not given, they must be learned.  But then, on the other hand, it is impossible not to acquire them, if one has a mind to them; for they are acquired insensibly, by keeping good company, if one has but the least attention to their characters and manners.

Every man becomes, to a certain degree, what the people he generally converses with are.  He catches their air, their manners, and even their way of thinking.  If he observes with attention, he will catch them soon, but if he does not, he will at long run contract them insensibly.  I know nothing in the world but poetry that is not to be acquired by application and care.  The sum total of this is a very comfortable one for you, as it plainly amounts to this in your favor, that you now want nothing but what even your pleasures, if they are liberal ones, will teach you.  I congratulate both you and myself upon your being in such a situation, that, excepting your exercises, nothing is now wanting but pleasures to complete you.  Take them, but (as I am sure you will) with people of the first fashion, whereever you are, and the business is done; your exercises at Paris, which I am sure you will attend to, will supple and fashion your body; and the company you will keep there will, with some degree of observation on your part, soon give you their air, address, manners, in short, ‘le ton de la bonne compagnie’.  Let not these considerations, however, make you vain:  they are only between you and me but as they are very comfortable ones, they may justly give you a manly assurance, a firmness, a steadiness, without which a man can neither be well-bred, or in any light appear to advantage, or really what he is.  They may justly remove all, timidity, awkward bashfulness, low diffidence of one’s self, and mean abject complaisance to every or anybody’s opinion.  La Bruyere says, very truly, ’on ne vaut dans ce monde, que ce que l’on veut valoir’.  It is a right principle to proceed upon in the world, taking care only to guard against the appearances and outward symptoms of vanity.  Your whole then, you see, turns upon the company you keep for the future.  I have laid you in variety of the best at Paris, where, at your arrival you will find a cargo of letters to very different sorts of people, as ‘beaux esprils, savants, et belles dames’.  These, if you will frequent them, will form you, not only by their examples, advice, and admonitions in private, as I have desired them to do; and consequently add to what you have the only one thing now needful.

Pray tell me what Italian books you have read, and whether that language is now become familiar to you.