Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1746-47 eBook

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Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1746-47 eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 60 pages of information about Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1746-47.
of the French frequently cover?  Many of them want common sense, many more common learning; but in general, they make up so much by their manner, for those defects, that frequently they pass undiscovered:  I have often said, and do think, that a Frenchman, who, with a fund of virtue, learning and good sense, has the manners and good-breeding of his country, is the perfection of human nature.  This perfection you may, if you please, and I hope you will, arrive at.  You know what virtue is:  you may have it if you will; it is in every man’s power; and miserable is the man who has it not.  Good sense God has given you.  Learning you already possess enough of, to have, in a reasonable time, all that a man need have.  With this, you are thrown out early into the world, where it will be your own fault if you do not acquire all, the other accomplishments necessary to complete and adorn your character.  You will do well to make your compliments to Madame St. Germain and Monsieur Pampigny; and tell them, how sensible you are of their partiality to you, in the advantageous testimonies which, you are informed, they have given of you here.

Adieu.  Continue to deserve such testimonies; and then you will not only deserve, but enjoy my truest affection.

LETTER VII

London, March 27, O. S. 1747.

Dear boy:  Pleasure is the rock which most young people split upon:  they launch out with crowded sails in quest of it, but without a compass to direct their course, or reason sufficient to steer the vessel; for want of which, pain and shame, instead of pleasure, are the returns of their voyage.  Do not think that I mean to snarl at pleasure, like a Stoic, or to preach against it, like a parson; no, I mean to point it out, and recommend it to you, like an Epicurean:  I wish you a great deal; and my only view is to hinder you from mistaking it.

The character which most young men first aim at, is that of a man of pleasure; but they generally take it upon trust; and instead of consulting their own taste and inclinations, they blindly adopt whatever those with whom they chiefly converse, are pleased to call by the name of pleasure; and a man of pleasure in the vulgar acceptation of that phrase, means only, a beastly drunkard, an abandoned whoremaster, and a profligate swearer and curser.  As it may be of use to you.  I am not unwilling, though at the same time ashamed to own, that the vices of my youth proceeded much more from my silly resolution of being, what I heard called a man of pleasure, than from my own inclinations.  I always naturally hated drinking; and yet I have often drunk; with disgust at the time, attended by great sickness the next day, only because I then considered drinking as a necessary qualification for a fine gentleman, and a man of pleasure.

The same as to gaming.  I did not want money, and consequently had no occasion to play for it; but I thought play another necessary ingredient in the composition of a man of pleasure, and accordingly I plunged into it without desire, at first; sacrificed a thousand real pleasures to it; and made myself solidly uneasy by it, for thirty the best years of my life.

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