If you cannot acquire and keep the confidence of your patient, it is time for you to give place to some other practitioner who can.  If you are wise and diligent, you can establish relations with the best of them which they will find it very hard to break.  But, if they wish to employ another person, who, as they think, knows more than you do, do not take it as a personal wrong.  A patient believes another man can save his life, can restore him to health, which, as he thinks, you have not the skill to do.  No matter whether the patient is right or wrong, it is a great impertinence to think you have any property in him.  Your estimate of your own ability is not the question, it is what the patient thinks of it.  All your wisdom is to him like the lady’s virtue in Raleigh’s song: 

  “If she seem not chaste to me,
   What care I how chaste she be?”

What I call a good patient is one who, having found a good physician, sticks to him till he dies.  But there are many very good people who are not what I call good patients.  I was once requested to call on a lady suffering from nervous and other symptoms.  It came out in the preliminary conversational skirmish, half medical, half social, that I was the twenty-sixth member of the faculty into whose arms, professionally speaking, she had successively thrown herself.  Not being a believer in such a rapid rotation of scientific crops, I gently deposited the burden, commending it to the care of number twenty-seven, and, him, whoever he might be, to the care of Heaven.

If there happened to be among my audience any person who wished to know on what principles the patient should choose his physician, I should give him these few precepts to think over: 

Choose a man who is personally agreeable, for a daily visit from an intelligent, amiable, pleasant, sympathetic person will cost you no more than one from a sloven or a boor, and his presence will do more for you than any prescription the other will order.

Let him be a man of recognized good sense in other matters, and the chance is that he will be sensible as a practitioner.

Let him be a man who stands well with his professional brethren, whom they approve as honest, able, courteous.

Let him be one whose patients are willing to die in his hands, not one whom they go to for trifles, and leave as soon as they are in danger, and who can say, therefore, that he never loses a patient.

Do not leave the ranks of what is called the regular profession, unless you wish to go farther and fare worse, for you may be assured that its members recognize no principle which hinders their accepting any remedial agent proved to be useful, no matter from what quarter it comes.  The difficulty is that the stragglers, organized under fantastic names in pretentious associations, or lurking in solitary dens behind doors left ajar, make no real contributions to the art of healing.  When they bring forward a remedial agent like chloral, like the bromide of potassium, like ether, used as an anesthetic, they will find no difficulty in procuring its recognition.