little fellows is that I have an
ego!” Mr.
Benton was an interesting man, and it is a fair consideration
if a certain amount of egotism does not add to the
interest of any character, but at the same time the
self-centred conditions shut a person off from one
of the chief enjoyments to be got out of this world,
namely, a recognition of what is admirable in others
in a toleration of peculiarities. It is odd,
almost amusing, to note how in this country people
of one section apply their local standards to the
judgment of people in other sections, very much as
an Englishman uses his insular yardstick to measure
all the rest of the world. It never seems to
occur to people in one locality that the manners and
speech of those of another may be just as admirable
as their own, and they get a good deal of discomfort
out of their intercourse with strangers by reason
of their inability to adapt themselves to any ways
not their own. It helps greatly to make this
country interesting that nearly every State has its
peculiarities, and that the inhabitants of different
sections differ in manner and speech. But next
to an interesting person in social value, is an agreeable
one, and it would add vastly to the agreeableness
of life if our widely spread provinces were not so
self-centred in their notion that their own way is
the best, to the degree that they criticise any deviation
from it as an eccentricity. It would be a very
nice world in these United States if we could all
devote ourselves to finding out in communities what
is likable rather than what is opposed to our experience;
that is, in trying to adapt ourselves to others rather
than insisting that our own standard should measure
our opinion and our enjoyment of them.
When the Kentuckian describes a man as a “high-toned
gentleman” he means exactly the same that a
Bostonian means when, he says that a man is a “very
good fellow,” only the men described have a different
culture, a different personal flavor; and it is fortunate
that the Kentuckian is not like the Bostonian, for
each has a quality that makes intercourse with him
pleasant. In the South many people think they
have said a severe thing when they say that a person
or manner is thoroughly Yankee; and many New Englanders
intend to express a considerable lack in what is essential
when they say of men and women that they are very Southern.
When the Yankee is produced he may turn out a cosmopolitan
person of the most interesting and agreeable sort;
and the Southerner may have traits and peculiarities,
growing out of climate and social life unlike the New
England, which are altogether charming. We talked
once with a Western man of considerable age and experience
who had the placid mind that is sometimes, and may
more and more become, the characteristic of those who
live in flat countries of illimitable horizons, who
said that New Yorkers, State and city, all had an
assertive sort of smartness that was very disagreeable
to him. And a lady of New York (a city whose dialect