charm of manner (which is almost as good) and sweetness
and gayety were sufficient, while others held that
a little intelligence sprinkled in was essential.
But one thing is clear, that while women were held
to strict responsibility in this matter, not stress
enough was laid upon the equal duty of men to be attractive
in order to make the world agreeable. Hence it
is, probably, that while no question has been raised
as to the effect of the higher education upon the
attractiveness of men, the colleges for girls have
been jealously watched as to the effect they were likely
to have upon the attractiveness of women. Whether
the college years of a young man, during which he
knows more than he will ever know again, are his most
attractive period is not considered, for he is expected
to develop what is in him later on; but it is gravely
questioned whether girls who give their minds to the
highest studies are not dropping those graces of personal
attractiveness which they will find it difficult to
pick up again. Of course such a question as this
could never arise except in just such a world as this
is. For in an ideal world it could be shown that
the highest intelligence and the highest personal charm
are twins. If, therefore, it should turn out,
which seems absurd, that college-educated girls are
not as attractive as other women with less advantages,
it will have to be admitted that something is the matter
with the young ladies, which is preposterous, or that
the system is still defective. For the postulate
that everybody ought to be attractive cannot be abandoned
for the sake of any system. Decision on this system
cannot be reached without long experience, for it
is always to be remembered that the man’s point
of view of attractiveness may shift, and he may come
to regard the intellectual graces as supremely attractive;
while, on the other hand, the woman student may find
that a winning smile is just as effective in bringing
a man to her feet, where he belongs, as a logarithm.
The danger of being too attractive, though it has
historic illustration, is thought by many to be more
apparent than real. Merely being too attractive
has often been confounded with a love of flirtation
and conquest, unbecoming always in a man, and excused
in a woman on the ground of her helplessness.
It could easily be shown that to use personal attractiveness
recklessly to the extent of hopeless beguilement is
cruel, and it may be admitted that woman ought to
be held to strict responsibility for her attractiveness.
The lines are indeed hard for her. The duty is
upon her in this poor world of being as attractive
as she can, and yet she is held responsible for all
the mischief her attractiveness produces. As
if the blazing sun should be called to account by
people with weak eyes.
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