common talk of people! We infer sometimes that
the hens are not saying anything, because they do
not read, and consequently their minds are empty.
And perhaps we are right. As to conversation,
there is no use in sending the bucket into the well
when the well is dry—it only makes a rattling
of windlass and chain. We do not wish to be understood
to be an enemy of the light traffic of human speech.
Deliver us from the didactic and the everlastingly
improving style of thing! Conversation, in order
to be good, and intellectually inspiring, and spiritually
restful, need not always be serious. It must
be alert and intelligent, and mean more by its suggestions
and allusions than is said. There is the light
touch-and-go play about topics more or less profound
that is as agreeable as heat-lightning in a sultry
evening. Why may not a person express the whims
and vagaries of a lambent mind (if he can get a lambent
mind) without being hauled up short for it, and plunged
into a heated dispute? In the freedom of real
conversation the mind throws out half-thoughts, paradoxes,
for which a man is not to be held strictly responsible
to the very roots of his being, and which need to
be caught up and played with in the same tentative
spirit. The dispute and the hot argument are
usually the bane of conversation and the death of originality.
We like to express a notion, a fancy, without being
called upon to defend it, then and there, in all its
possible consequences, as if it were to be an article
in a creed or a plank in a platform. Must we be
always either vapid or serious?
We have been obliged to take notice of the extraordinary
tendency of American women to cultivation, to the
improvement of the mind, by means of reading, clubs,
and other intellectual exercises, and to acknowledge
that they are leaving the men behind; that is, the
men not in the so-called professions. Is this
intellectualization beginning to show in the conversation
of women when they are together, say in the hours of
relaxation in the penetralia spoken of, or in general
society? Is there less talk about the fashion
of dress, and the dearness or cheapness of materials,
and about servants, and the ways of the inchoate citizen
called the baby, and the infinitely little details
of the private life of other people? Is it true
that if a group of men are talking, say about politics,
or robust business, or literature, and they are joined
by women (whose company is always welcome), the conversation
is pretty sure to take a lower mental plane, to become
more personal, more frivolous, accommodating itself
to quite a different range? Do the well-read,
thoughtful women, however beautiful and brilliant and
capable of the gayest persiflage, prefer to talk with
men, to listen to the conversation of men, rather
than to converse with or listen to their own sex?
If this is true, why is it? Women, as a rule,
in “society” at any rate, have more leisure
than men. In the facilities and felicities of