gynecee of any wealthy Chinese establishment,
we think we have gathered quite enough from reading
and conversation to justify us in regarding the Chinese
lady from an entirely different point of view.
In novels, for instance, the heroine is always highly
educated—composes finished verses, and quotes
from Confucius; and it is only fair to suppose that
such characters are not purely and wholly ideal.
Besides, most young Chinese girls, whose parents are
well off, are taught to read, though it is true that
many content themselves with being able to read and
write a few hundred words. They all learn and
excel in embroidery; the little knick-knacks which
hang at every Chinaman’s waist-band being almost
always the work of his wife or sister. Visiting
between Chinese ladies is of everyday occurrence, and
on certain fete-days the temples are crowded to overflowing
with “golden lilies"[*] of all shapes and sizes.
They give little dinner-parties to their female relatives
and friends, at which they talk scandal, and brew
mischief to their hearts’ content. The first
wife sometimes quarrels with the second, and between
them they make the house uncomfortably hot for the
unfortunate husband. “Don’t you foreigners
also dread the denizens of the inner apartments?”
said a hen-pecked Chinaman one day to us—and
we think he was consoled to hear that viragos are
by no means confined to China. One of the happiest
moments a Chinese woman knows, is when the family circle
gathers round husband, brother, or it may be son, and
listens with rapt attention and wondering credulity
to a favourite chapter from the “Dream of the
Red Chamber.” She believes it every word,
and wanders about these realms of fiction with as
much confidence as was ever placed by western child
in the marvellous stories of the “Arabian Nights.”
[*] A poetical name for the
small feet of Chinese women.
ETIQUETTE
If there is one thing more than another, after the
possession of the thirteen classics, on which the
Chinese specially pride themselves, it is politeness.
Even had their literature alone not sufficed to place
them far higher in the scale of mental cultivation
than the unlettered barbarian, a knowledge of those
important forms and ceremonies which regulate daily
intercourse between man and man, unknown of course
to inhabitants of the outside nations, would have
amply justified the graceful and polished Celestial
in arrogating to himself the proud position he now
occupies with so much satisfaction to himself.
A few inquiring natives ask if foreigners have any
notion at all of etiquette, and are always surprised
in proportion to their ignorance to hear that our
ideas of ceremony are fully as clumsy and complicated
as their own. It must be well understood that
we speak chiefly of the educated classes, and not
of “boys” and compradores who learn in
a very short time both to touch their caps and wipe
their noses on their masters’ pocket-handkerchiefs.
Our observations will be confined to members of that
vast body of men who pore day and night over the “Doctrine
of the Mean,” and whose lips would scorn to utter
the language of birds.