never have for her tradesman any man who frequented
conventicles, who was not content with the religion
of his betters, and who must needs scorn the parish
church and do despite to the saints’ days.
Another gossip asked her what she expected to make
of her great family of boys when it was well known
that all the gentry in the neighbourhood but two or
three had sworn that they would never have a hulking
Puritan to brush their boots or run their errands.
And it almost made her husband burn his book and swear
that he would never be seen at another prayer-meeting
when his wife so often said to him that he should
never have had children, that he should never have
made her his wife, and that he was not like this when
they were first man and wife. And in her bitterness
she would name this wife or that maid, and would say,
You should have married her. She would have gone
to the meeting-house with you as often as you wished.
Her sons are far enough from good service to please
you. ‘My wife,’ he softly said, ’was
afraid of losing the world. And then, after
that, my growing sons were soon given over, all I
could do, to the foolish delights of youth, so that,
what by one thing and what by another, they left me
to wander in this manner alone.’ And I
suppose there is scarcely a household among ourselves
where there have not been serious and damaging misunderstandings
between old-fashioned fathers and their young people
about what the old people called the ‘foolish
delights’ of their sons and daughters.
And in thinking this matter over, I have often been
struck with how Job did when his sons and his daughters
were bent upon feasting and dancing in their eldest
brother’s house. The old man did not lay
an interdict upon the entertainment. He did
not take part in it, but neither did he absolutely
forbid it. If it must be it must be, said the
wise patriarch. And since I do not know whom
they may meet there, or what they may be tempted to
do, I will sanctify them all. I will not go
up into my bed till I have prayed for all my seven
sons and three daughters, each one of them by their
names; and till they come home safely I will rise
every morning and offer burnt-offerings according to
the number of them all. And do you think that
those burnt-offerings and accompanying intercessions
would go for nothing when the great wind came from
the wilderness and smote the four corners of the banqueting-house?
If you cannot banish the love of foolish delights out
the hearts of your sons and daughters, then do not
quarrel with them over such things; a family quarrel
in a Christian man’s house is surely far worse
than a feast or a dance. Only, if they must
feast and dance and such like, be you all the more
diligent in your exercises at home on their behalf
till they are back again, where, after all, they like
best to be, in their good, kind, liberal, and loving
father’s house.
Have you a family? Are you a married man? Or, if not, do you hope one day to be? Then attend betimes to what Charity says to Christian in the House Beautiful, and not less to what he says back again to her.