more tears over the grave of the former than of the
latter. They take care of everything but their
friends; they will examine into and take great notice
of the smallest trifle in their affairs, which perhaps
stand in no need of their care, but neglect their
friends that do. In short, though they have
many estates, they know them all; but though they have
but few friends, yet they know not the number of them;
insomuch that if they are desired to name them, they
are puzzled immediately, so little are their friends
in their thoughts. Nevertheless, there is nothing
comparable to a good friend; no slave is so affectionate
to our person or interest; no horse can render us
so great service; in a word, nothing is so useful to
us in all occasions. For a true friend supplies
all the wants and answers all the demands of another,
either in the conduct of his private affairs or in
the management of the public. If, for instance,
his friend be obliged to do a kindness to any man,
he puts him in the way of it; if he be assaulted with
any danger he immediately flies to his relief.
At one time he gives him part of his estate, at another
he assists him with the labour of his hands; sometimes
he helps him to persuade, sometimes he aids him to
compel; in prosperity he heightens his delight by rejoicing
with him; in adversity he diminisheth his sorrows by
bearing a share of them. The use a man may make
of his hands, his eyes, his ears, his feet, is nothing
at all when compared with the service one friend may
render another. For often what we cannot do
for our own advantage, what we have not seen, nor
thought, nor heard of, when our own interests were
concerned, what we have not pursued for ourselves,
a friend has done for his friend. How foolish
were it to be at so much trouble in cultivating a
small orchard of trees, because we expect some fruit
from it, and yet be at no pains to cultivate that
which is instead of a whole estate—I mean
Friendship—a soil the most glorious and
fertile where we are sure to gather the fairest and
best of fruit!”
CHAPTER V. OF THE WORTH AND VALUE OF FRIENDS.
To what I have advanced above I shall here relate
another discourse of his, as far as I can remember,
in which he exhorted his hearers to examine themselves,
that they might know what value their friends might
set upon them; for seeing a man who had abandoned his
friend in extreme poverty, he asked Antisthenes this
question in presence of that very man and several
others: “Can we set a price upon friends
as we do upon slaves? One slave may be worth
twenty crowns, another not worth five; such a one
will cost fifty crowns, another will yield a hundred.
Nay, I am told that Nicias, the son of Niceratus,
gave even six hundred crowns for one slave to be inspector
of his silver mines. Do you think we might likewise
set prices upon friends?” “I believe we
may,” answered Antisthenes; “for there
are some men by whom I would rather choose to be loved