[Manners and social customs 707]

Finger Bowls.—­When finger bowls are brought, the tips of the fingers are dipped in the bowl and dried on the napkin.  Men may lift the moistened fingers to the lips; women seldom do this, but wipe the lips with the napkin.  At any function the napkin is not folded, but laid at the side of the plate at the conclusion of the repast.  If a guest for a day or so, or for more than one meal, note what your hostess does with her napkin and follow her.  If a guest at only one meal, never fold the napkin.  Be careful not to throw it down so carelessly that it is stained with coffee, fruit, or fruit juices; your hostess will thank you for your consideration.

Be ready to rise when your hostess rises; you do not push your chair into place; simply rise and leave it.  Rise on the side of your chair so you will not have to go around it in following your hostess to the drawing room.

RECEPTIONS.

When invitations are sent out for a reception, the recipient dons her handsomest afternoon gown for the occasion.  This may be a dressy tailored suit; by this is meant one not severely simple; or she may wear some handsome trained gown under a long coat.  Small cards for presentation at the door are sometimes enclosed with invitations to a large reception or buffet luncheon, since “the pushers” have been known to present themselves at such functions without having been invited.  These cards are handed to the man who opens the carriage door.  An awning extends from the door to the curb, and strips of carpet are laid under it, A maid opens the door and directs guests to the dressing room, where wraps are laid aside, hats and gloves being retained.

Receiving.—­The hostess stands near the door of the drawing room, welcoming her guests with hand and smile.  Next to her stand the ladies who receive with her.  During the hour of arrival there is seldom opportunity for more than a word of greeting, and one should not linger but pass on down the line.  A reception is often given to some visiting stranger, who is introduced by the hostess.

The guests then circulate through the rooms, greeting acquaintances, and drifting eventually to the dining room, where refreshments are served.  They may stay as long as they find it agreeable, within the hours named on the card of invitation, but people seldom stay more than an hour.

The hostess remains near the door after the rush is over to greet the belated guest and bid adieu to those who are leaving.

[708 Mothers’ remedies]