“Sex love has, apart from parenthood, a purport of its own.  It is something to prize and to cherish for its own sake.  It is an essential part of health and happiness in marriage.  And now, if you will allow me, I will carry this argument a step further.  If sexual union is a gift of God it is worth learning how to use it.  Within its own sphere it should be cultivated so as to bring physical satisfaction to both, not merely to one....  The real problems before us are those of sex love and child love; and by sex love I mean that love which involves intercourse or the desire for such.  It is necessary to my argument to emphasize that sex love is one of the dominating forces of the world.  Not only does history show the destinies of nations and dynasties determined by its sway—­but here in our every-day life we see its influence, direct or indirect, forceful and ubiquitous beyond aught else.  Any statesmanlike view, therefore, will recognize that here we have an instinct so fundamental, so imperious, that its influence is a fact which has to be accepted; suppress it you cannot.  You may guide it into healthy channels, but an outlet it will have, and if that outlet is inadequate and unduly obstructed irregular channels will be forced....

“The attainment of mutual and reciprocal joy in their relations constitutes a firm bond between two people, and makes for durability of the marriage tie.  Reciprocity in sex love is the physical counterpart of sympathy.  More marriages fail from inadequate and clumsy sex love than from too much sex love.  The lack of proper understanding is in no small measure responsible for the unfulfillment of connubial happiness, and every degree of discontent and unhappiness may, from this cause, occur, leading to rupture of the marriage bond itself.  How often do medical men have to deal with these difficulties, and how fortunate if such difficulties are disclosed early enough in married life to be rectified.  Otherwise how tragic may be their consequences, and many a case in the Divorce Court has thus had its origin.  To the foregoing contentions, it might be objected, you are encouraging passion.  My reply would be, passion is a worthy possession—­most men, who are any good, are capable of passion.  You all enjoy ardent and passionate love in art and literature.  Why not give it a place in real life?  Why some people look askance at passion is because they are confusing it with sensuality.  Sex love without passion is a poor, lifeless thing.  Sensuality, on the other hand, is on a level with gluttony—­a physical excess—­detached from sentiment, chivalry, or tenderness.  It is just as important to give sex love its place as to avoid its over-emphasis.  Its real and effective restraints are those imposed by a loving and sympathetic companionship, by the privileges of parenthood, the exacting claims of career and that civic sense which prompts men to do social service.  Now that the revision of the Prayer Book is receiving consideration, I should like to suggest with great respect an addition made to the objects of marriage in the Marriage Service, in these terms, ’The complete realization of the love of this man and this woman, the one for the other.’”