There lies the difference.  The good Lord who made us women had His own excellent reason for making us physically weaker than men.  Perhaps because, had we their strength, we would be too ambitious.  However that may be, men, as the stronger sex, should help us in our weakness.  Standing in the horse-car that is jostling over a rough track, holding on with up-stretched arm to a strap and “swinging corners” during a two-mile ride, would do more harm to a girl of your own age than you would suffer were you to stand while making a twenty-mile trip.  For humanity’s sake, then, if your gallantry does not prompt you to make sacrifice, do not allow any woman, old or young, to “hold her perpendicular in the aisle” when you can offer her a seat and while you have a pair of capable legs upon which to depend for support.

A true gentleman is always unselfish, be he old or young, rested or weary; and such being the case, the foreign day-laborer, in blue blouse and hob-nailed boots, who rises and gives a lady his place in car or omnibus, is the superior of the several-times-a-millionaire, in finest broadcloth, spotless linen, patent leathers and silk hat, who sits still, taking refuge behind his newspaper, in which he is seemingly so deeply absorbed as to be blind to the fact that a woman, old enough to be his mother, stands near him.  With one gentlemanliness is instinctive, with the other it is, like his largest diamond stud, worn for show, and even then is a little “off color.”  I hope it is hardly necessary to remind you that true courtesy does not stay to distinguish between a rich or a poor woman, or to notice whether she is a pretty young girl, fashionably attired, or a decrepit laundress taking home the week’s wash.  She is a woman!  That should be sufficient to arouse your manliness.

This is the truthful reply to query No. 1.  Not a pleasant answer perhaps, but an honest one.  To make the advice more palatable, take it with a plentiful seasoning of gratitude for the gift of physical strength which makes you a man.

And now for No. 2.  Here you are right, and your suggestion has had my serious consideration.  Possibly, thoughtlessness may account for the foolish “whispering and giggling” you mention, but stares and amused comments upon fellow-passengers are nothing less than acts of rudeness, be they perpetrated by boy or girl.  But two wrongs never yet made a right, and because a girl is discourteous is no reason why you should put yourself on the same footing with her, and fail to observe towards her “the deference due” all women.  If you are in a car with a profane drunkard, you do not copy his actions, or, if obliged to address him, adopt his style of language.