Viewed from a selfish and politic standpoint, it is to our interest to make the best of everybody.  We cannot always pick and choose our associates in the school of life, and must frequently be thrown with people whom we do not “take to,” and, worse still, who may not “take to” us.  Since this be true, would it not be better for us to look at their pleasantest side, and, by making ourselves agreeable to them, insure their friendly feeling for us?  The old saying that the good-will of a dog is preferable to his ill-will, may still be quoted with regard to many specimens of the genus homo which we daily meet.

There is one case in which I make an exception to all that I have said—­namely, when from the first, there is—­not a feeling of dislike, but a strong, uncontrollable personal antipathy.  If you are generally charitable and just, and have few actual dislikes, and meet a man against whom your whole nature revolts, who is as repulsive to you as a snake would be, avoid him.  It is not necessary for you to tell others of the uncomfortable impression he has made upon you.  He may not affect them in the same way.  I acknowledge, not only from observation, but from personal experience, that there are certain people from whom one recoils with a feeling of physical as well as mental repugnance.  I believe that every woman who reads this talk has an unerring feminine instinct which will thus prompt her when she meets her own particular “Dr. Fell.”

But I also believe that we seldom meet characters which repel us in this especial way.  Oftener some slight to ourselves, some one unfortunate speech, biases our judgment, and those against whom we are thus prejudiced are even sometimes connected to us by ties of consanguinity.  We would do well to analyze the causes which lead to our feelings of dislike, and I fear we should often find that wounded self-esteem was the root of the evil.  And, after all, what a great matter a little fire kindleth!  Let us quench the spark before it ignites.  It is arrant folly, not to mention wickedness, to make enemies for the little while we are here.  There is an incurable heartache which comes from such mistakes.  Owen Meredith describes it in a poem, every verse of which throbs with hopeless love and regret, and one of which teaches a lesson so much needed by us all that we would do well to commit to memory the last two lines, and repeat them almost hourly: 

“I thought of our little quarrels and strife,
   And the letter that brought me back my ring;
And it all seemed then, in the waste of life,
   Such a very little thing!”

CHAPTER XII.

THE PERFECT WORK OF PATIENCE.

A slender little treble was singing it over and over again in childish sort, with so little appreciation of the meaning of the words that the oddity of the ditty was the first thing to attract my attention to it.