Sometimes the boy, when he likes a girl very much, may make the first advances, but even then he has to wait until she throws the first pebbles and drops the blanket, for, among the Indians, it is the woman who seeks the man, and the fair who deserve the brave.

Next day they come home together, and after this they do not hide themselves any more.  The parents of the girl are advised to make tesvino, as the young couple should not be separated any more, and word is sent out to a few friends and relatives to come to the wedding.

The guests arrive in the afternoon and most of the people remain outside of the house during the ceremony, but the bridegroom and his parents go inside, where they seat themselves on skins spread out on the floor.  The mother of the girl has placed a large skin next to a big jar of tesvino, and on this the father of the boy sits down.  As soon as he has taken his place, the host offers him three gourds full of the drink and requests him to accept the office of honour, the distribution of tesvino to all present, and he immediately enters upon his duties.  He first gives four gourds full to the mother of the bride, as the mistress of the tesvino, and three gourds full to the host, the master; then four gourds full to his own wife.  The bridal couple have been called in and told to sit down side by side, and all the rest of the people come in and stand around the pair.  There is no special place assigned to anyone; but the father of the boy stands up and his mother sits down, while the girl’s father sits down and her mother stands up.  The boy’s father now makes a speech, telling the bridal couple that they must remain together, and never separate nor fight.  He specially tells the young man that he has to kill deer and take care always to bring some animal home to his wife, even if it be only a chipmunk or a mouse.  He also has to plough and to sow corn and to raise crops, that he and she may always have enough to eat and not go hungry.

The father of the girl next takes the word, addressing himself mostly to the bride.  Now that she is united to the man of her choice, she should always comply with her wifely duties.  She must make blankets for her husband, and be industrious, make tesvino and iskiate, pinole, tortillas, gather herbs, etc., that her husband may always have something to eat and not go hungry.  He names all the herbs singly.  She must also help him, in her way, with the ploughing and sowing, so that he may raise plenty of corn to make tesvino that others may help him.  She never must be lazy.

The father of the girl now gives tesvino to his future son-in-law, whose father in turn gives some to the bride.  The bridal couple are covered with blankets, and in some cases his and her right hands are tied together.  There is no other marriage ceremony.  But all the guests partake of the liberally flowing bowl, and the festivities end in general and complete intoxication.