women are doubtless called to be mothers of the race,
and to do the social work which is so necessary to
our complex civilization. Some women may feel
themselves called to some literary or artistic pursuit,
or some other profession, for which they require the
freedom of unmarried life. But I think I shall
carry most women with me in saying that for the ordinary
woman marriage is the happiest state, and that she
rarely realizes the deepest and highest in her nature
except in wifehood and motherhood. Rarely, indeed,
can any public work that she can do for the world
equal the value of that priceless work of building
up, stone by stone, the temple of a good man’s
character which falls to the lot of his mother.
Truly is she called the wife, the weaver, since day
and night, without hasting and without resting, she
is weaving the temple hangings, wrought about with
pomegranates and lilies, of the very shrine of his
being. And if our girls could be led to see this,
at least it would overcome that adverseness to marriage
which many are now so curiously showing, and which
inevitably makes them more fastidious and fanciful
in their choice, And, on the other hand, without falling
back into the old match-making mamma, exposing her
wares in the marriage market to be knocked down to
the highest bidder, might not parents recognize a little
more than they do how incumbent on them it is to make
every effort to give their daughters that free and
healthy intercourse with young men which would yield
them a wider choice, and which forms the best method
for insuring a happy marriage?
At least, let us open our eyes to the fact that we
are face to face with some terrible problems with
regard to the future of our girls. With safe
investments yielding less and less interest, it must
become more and more difficult to make a provision
for the unmarried daughters; and if the money is spent
instead on training them to earn their own bread, we
are still met by the problem of the early superannuation
of women’s labor, which rests on physical causes,
and cannot therefore be removed. This at least
is no time to despise marriage, or for women of strong
and independent character to adopt an attitude which
deprives the nation of many of its noblest mothers.
But if we are to facilitate marriage, which must form,
at any rate, the main solution of the problems of
the near future to which I have alluded, if we are
to prevent, or even lessen, the degradation of women,
if we are to extinguish this pit of destruction in
our midst, into which so many a fair and promising
young life disappears, and which perpetually threatens
the moral and physical welfare of our own sons, if
we are to stay the seeds of moral decay in our own
nation, we must be content to revolutionize much in
the order of our own life, and adopt a lower and simpler
standard of living. It is we, and not men, who
set the standard; it is we who have been guilty of
the vulgar ambition of following the last social fashion,