and performed. And what shall be said for the
despicable vanity which would barter opportunities
of forming and directing a human character for the
sake of trimmings and fancy buttons? We cannot
possess the confidence and friendship of our children
without taking pains to deserve them. If the
father chooses to be “the governor” of
his family, then the
ex-governor, and nothing
more, can he be to his grown-up children,—an
official once set over them by some Know-Nothing or
other fatality, at length happily shelved with the
rubbish of the nursery. Nowhere are the external
sanctities of domestic life more respected than in
our Northern States, and here should its fairest promises
be bountifully fulfilled. Above all things, it
is to be remembered that whatever moral power a man
would have his children possess, that must he especially
demand and exercise in himself. The Law of the
household must afford the luxury of a Conscience;
for if ever the maxim “
Summum jus, summa,
injuria” be worthy of remembrance, it is
in the management of children. Well for those
who realize that education is no merely lineal advancement,
but a spreading and flowering in many directions! well
for those who cultivate all the capabilities of love
and trust in their children! “When I think,”
says Jean Paul, “that I never saw in my father
a trace of selfishness, I thank God!” There comes
the time when young men go forth to battle in the
world, and the father prays bitterly for the power
to endow them with the results of his own experience.
But only to him who has borne himself truthfully and
honorably before his family can that good gift be
given.
Upon the subject of religious education “Levana”
is finely suggestive. All cobweb-makeshifts which
obscure the beautiful substance of a holy life are
swept aside. To the young, not what others say,
but what they do, is right. Children, like their
elders, will resist all mere reasoning upon the disadvantages,
whether temporal or spiritual, of actions to which
they are tempted. But they are ever ready to absorb
the faith of the household, and to be nourished by
it. “For those who wish to give anything,”
exclaims our author, “the first rule is, that
they shall have it to give; no one can teach religion
who does not himself possess it; hypocrisy and mouth-religion
will bring forth only their like.” The
hardly noticeable habits of unrestrained intercourse,
the indulgence of petty selfishness not acknowledged
to ourselves,—these are seeds of evil quick
to germinate in a virgin soil. No iteration of
pedagogical maxims can annul the influence of some
little mean or graceless act. Let every parent
take heed lest, through his own weakness and folly,
he lose the divine privilege of obedience through confidence.
In the world, obedience through discipline must indeed
come; but let it be unknown in the family as long
as it may. And of “mouth-religion”
what fatal abundance! To a child, it is no more
than the creaking and rattling of a vehicle, which