[Illustration:  CAROLINE BARTLETT CRANE Mrs. Crane, an expert on sanitation, has successfully applied the principles of good housekeeping to civic affairs in many cities, and has thus made women more of a factor in the community at large]

The successful marriage presupposes unselfishness, even carried if necessary to the point of sacrifice, but it must be unselfishness for two, not for one alone.  Neither the “child wife” who must be carried as a burden, nor the complacent husband who forms the center of a smoothly revolving little world patiently turned by a silent wife, has any part in the marriage of equality—­the only marriage worthy of the name.

The successful marriage calls also for freedom—­again for two.  Women sometimes hesitate to marry because the old idea of marriage involved loss of individuality, and they have little faith in men’s readiness to accept any other idea.  Men, on the other hand, fear to marry because the “new woman” demands so much for herself—­development, a career, a chance to work out her own ideals of life.  The man sees little in this for himself but the “second fiddle” which woman for centuries played to his first.  Ideal marriages, however, do take place in which there is no sacrifice of personality—­in which, indeed, each lives a fuller life than would have been possible without the marriage.  For this to be realized, there must be full recognition of the responsibility of each for his or her own deeds, and a standing aside while each works out his destiny.  This does not mean a separation of interests nor an abandonment of common counsel.  It means merely that in individual matters each must have the freedom enjoyed before marriage took place.  It must mean for women some sort of economic independence, and in addition a spiritual independence such as men enjoy.  When this freedom is cheerfully given, and in return the wife gives a like liberty to the husband, the great incentive to concealments and deceptions or to nagging and controversy is removed.  The petty annoyances of the day are lessened, trust is increased, and both man and woman find their strength increased rather than depleted by the relation.

[Illustration:  Courtesy of George Herbert Palmer ALICE FREEMAN PALMER Mrs. Palmer’s was one of the ideal marriages in which husband and wife each lived a fuller life than would have been possible without the marriage.  Happy in her home life, Mrs. Palmer yet had time to achieve a brilliant success in administrative educational work]

Common interests are an almost certain safeguard in most marriages.  Common duties are more often than not a source of difficulty.  An untold number of matrimonial ventures fail because of inadequate responsibility in adjustment of expenses to income.  Many more are rendered inharmonious by failure of parents to agree as to the management of children.  In both these directions increased knowledge will do much to secure harmonious action.  Family traditions