It may be a matter of surprise to the ultra-modern that there were not, in those days, more old maids or women who hesitated long before entering into matrimony, for marriage was almost invariably for life.  There were of course, some separations, and now and then a divorce, but since unfaithfulness was practically the only reason that a court would consider, there was but little opportunity for the exercise of this modern legal form of freedom.  Moreover, the magistrates ruled that the guilty person might not remarry; but although they strove zealously in some sections to enforce this rule, the rougher members of society easily evaded it by moving into another colony.  Sewall makes mention of applications for divorce; but when such a catastrophe seemed imminent in his own family he opposed it strongly.

Let us examine this case, not for the purpose of impudently staring at the family skeleton in the good old Judge’s closet, but that we may see that wedlock was not always “one glad, sweet song,” even in Puritan days.  His eldest son Samuel had such serious difficulties with the woman whom he married that at length the couple separated and lived apart for several years.  The pious judge worried and fretted over the scandal for a long while; but, of course, such affairs will happen in even the best of families.  The record of the marriage runs as follows:  “September 15, 1702.  Mr. Nehemiah Walter marries Mr. Sam.  Sewall and Mrs. Rebekah Dudley.”  Evidently Mrs. Rebekah Dudley Sewall was not so meek as the average Puritan wife is generally pictured; for on February 13, 1712, the judge noted:  “When my daughter alone, I ask’d her what might be the cause of my Son’s Indisposition, are you so kindly affectioned one towards one another as you should be?  She answer’d I do my Duty.  I said no more...."[262a]

Six days later the troubled father wrote:  “Lecture-day, son S. Goes to Meeting, speaks to Mr. Walter.  I also speak to him to dine.  He could not; but said he would call before he went home.  When he came he discours’d largly with my son....  Friends talk to them both, and so come together again."[262a]

Two days later:  “Daughter Sewall calls and gives us a visit; I went out to carry my Letters to Savil’s....  While I was absent, My Wife and Daughter Sewall had very sharp discourse; She wholly justified herself, and said, if it were not for her, no Maid could be able to dwell at their house.  At last Daughter Sewall burst out with Tears, and call’d for the Calash.  My wife relented also, and said she did not design to grieve her."[263]

Evidently affairs went from bad to worse, even to the point where Sam ate his meals alone and probably prepared them too; for the Judge at length notes in his Diary:  “I goe to Brooklin, meet my daughter Sewall going to Roxbury with Hanah....  Sam and I dined alone.  Daughter return’d before I came away.  I propounded to her that Mr. Walter (the pastor) might be desired to come to them and pray with them.  She seemed not to like the notion, said she knew not wherefore she should be call’d before a Minister....  I urg’d him as the fittest Moderator; the Govr. or I might be thought partial.  She pleaded her performance of Duty, and how much she had born...."[264]