genuine desertions, but often become so later on.) It is possible that, beset by irritations and perplexities, the thought of cutting his way out at one stroke from all his difficulties made an appeal too strong to be resisted.  Or perhaps he flung out of the house and away, in a passion of anger and jealousy which later crystallized into cold dislike.  The spell of an infatuation for another woman might well have been the cause; or he may have been mentally deranged through alcohol.  Simple weariness of the burden which he has not strength of body or mind to carry and ought never to have assumed is one attitude to be reckoned with, and failure to realize or in his heart accept the binding nature of his obligations is another.

His temperamental instability may have been such that the desire for a change—­the “wanderlust”—­was driving him to distraction.  Or perhaps, under the urge of his own subconscious feeling of failure, he may have convinced himself that if he could “shake” the old environment and all in it that hampered him, he could take a fresh start and make good.  “If I could only get to California,” sighed Patrick Donald,[6] “I have a feeling things would be different.”  With too much imagination to be content with the situation in which he found himself, Donald had not imagination enough to realize that he would have to take his old self with him wherever he went, and that he might better fight things out where he stood.  Men of his sort yearn constantly for the future, not realizing that in its truest sense the present is the future.

Only in rare instances will the deserter accept the entire responsibility for his act.  To try to find justification for doing what we want to do is characteristic of human beings, and the deserter is no exception.  He attempts to “rationalize” his conduct and so regain his sense of self-approval and well-being by finding excuses and justifications in the conduct of others.  Even when the fault is all his, he usually succeeds in making himself believe that his wife is more to blame than he for his having left home.[7] The social worker who attempts to deal with the situation the deserter creates should know this attitude in advance and be prepared, through some simple rule-of-thumb psychology, to attack the obsession and bring him, first of all, to see and face squarely his own responsibility.

Many blanket theories have been developed to explain desertion—­that it is due to economic pressure; that it is the result of bad housekeeping; that its causes can all be reduced to sex incompatibility.  All these factors:  undoubtedly have their bearing on the problem, but there is no one cause or group of causes underlying breakdowns in family morale.  The ratio of desertions has been observed to decrease rather than to increase in “hard times";[8] moreover, it is a matter of common observation that not all slovenly and incompetent wives are deserted, and that many married couples in all walks of life