any to make advances which you know you will one day repel.  But in discouraging such advances, be kind and respectful.  Never do or say anything wilfully to wound and give pain to the feelings.  Remember that the sharpest grief of life, as well as its greatest happiness, is connected with the love-making period in the life of all good young people, and never treat with frivolity or rudeness any earnest feeling on the part of anyone.  The young girl who can rudely repulse the sincere advance of any honorable young man has some defect in her moral and affectional nature And as for any advance by a gentleman, young or old, that is not respectful or sincere, a young girl is much to blame if it ever happens more than once.  Chaffing and teasing about beaux and courtship and marriage are very unbecoming, and blur that delicacy of feeling which is the greatest charm in the relation between young people of opposite sexes.

Cherishing as the happiest ideal of life the possible future home of your own, you should still remember that it may never be yours, and should make such other provision for living your life as shall help you to the next best thing.  The first and highest good, next after a home of your own, is to be able to render to the world some service for which it will pay you, thus making you independent and enabling you to shape your life as you wish.  You and all young girls of the present generation are happy in having avenues of useful remunerative occupation open to you on every hand, and society smiles and approves if you work at something to win independence and make money.  It is scarcely necessary to remind you that in order to do effective paying work you must choose some specialty and acquire skill in its exercise before you can hope to earn any considerable wages or salary.  While perfecting yourself in the specialty you will have abundant opportunity to observe that it takes patience, perseverance, and determination, to do any kind of work well.  One great reason why so many fail of making any success in life is that they have not the power of sticking steadily to their work.  They get tired, and want to stop; whereas the true worker works though he is tired—­works till it doesn’t tire him to work; works on, unheeding the numerous temptations to turn aside to this or that diversion.  There are now so many fields of honorable and profitable employment open to young girls that it is only necessary for you to choose what you will do.  But make a choice to do something useful and worthy of your powers.  You will be happier, and you will be a better and nobler woman, for so doing.  You will be spared the discontent and restlessness of spirit which characterize the girl with nothing in particular to do, and who often becomes on this account a nuisance to all earnest people around her.