so the sight of her would bring home a sense of undeservingness to the less fortunate; she cannot speak so as to be “understanded of” them; she is not one of those who have learnt that “avoir beaucoup souffert c’est comme ceux qui savent beaucoup de langues, avoir appris a tout comprendre, et a se fairs comprendre de tous.”  But the virtues Solomon describes need not result in this type, which is antagonistic to us; extremes meet, and it is the exaggeration of a very lovable type—­the woman who gives you the feeling of rest and protection and strong motherliness, who is as the shadow of a great rock in a weary land.  “The meekness and gentleness of Christ” is translated by Matthew Arnold as the “sweet reasonableness,” and this makes a very lovable woman.  Sweet unreasonableness makes a more taking one, but not a keeping one.  Butterfly women have more fascinating ways, but Spring-time comes to an end—­the day will come for all women when others will come to them to be ministered to, to be rested and soothed and raised.  It is sad to watch many who have the faded pretty ways which once was all that was required of them, and who, in middle life, cannot understand why their belongings find them so inadequate!  Long ago, Swift warned girls against making nets instead of cages, but they have not all learnt wisdom yet.  And the main point is, not how you can get, or give, most amusement, but how you can give most comfort; and no one goes to a weak person for that.  There are few things certain in life, but one of these few is, that others will come to each one of us, in doubt, in sorrow, in pain, in ignorance, and that, through negligence and ignorance of ours, they may go away uncomforted, unhelped, untaught, and this, though each one of us has it in her power to become, through God’s grace, one of those Queens of Consolation of whom Dante spoke.

I think the Virtuous Woman ought to be on her guard against hardness:  it is her temptation, naturally, as it was that of the Elder Brother,—­but love and humility can make even strength lovable.  And for those who are in no danger of being too like the Virtuous Woman, but who are still struggling out of a lower life, I am quite sure that weakness is the rock ahead.  It must be so for nearly all women:  their feelings are keener and sooner developed than those of men, and they are less trained in intellect and self-control.  Their chief value lies in intuition and impulse, and their chief danger also.  You will never be the “Virtuous Woman” if you are self-indulgent in novels which dwell on feelings, in daydreams, in foolish friendships, which only bring out the emotional side of your nature, instead of strengthening you to do what is right, and widening your sensible interests in life.  There is but one certain protection against this temptation, and we find it in Proverbs xxxi.; I mean, industry at home.