intimate terms with their children, and on suitable
occasions, when this feeling of intimacy is strong,
children should be encouraged to speak freely and
to ask for explanations. By a judicious use of
such opportunities piece by piece the whole may be
unfolded. In order that the child may approach
the subject in the proper spirit we may stimulate
interest by a few lessons in Natural History.
A child of eight or ten years of age is not too young
to learn a little of the outlines of anatomy and physiology.
If he is told a few bald facts about the skeleton,
about the circulation and the processes of digestion
such as any parent can teach at the cost of a few hours’
study of a handbook, this will lead naturally enough,
in later lessons, to a similar talk upon the excretory
organs, reproduction, and the anatomy and processes
of sex, suitable to the individual. To achieve
“depolarisation,” there is nothing more
efficacious than the frankness and explicitness of
scientific statement, however elementary. Later
a little knowledge of Botany and Zoology will enable
a parent to sketch briefly the outlines of fertilisation
and reproduction. The child may grasp the conception
that the life of all individual plants and animals
is directed towards the single aim of continuing the
species. He can be told how the bee carries the
male pollen to the female flower, how all living things
habitually conjugate, the lowest in the scale of development
as well as the highest, and how the fertilised egg
becomes the embryo which is hatched by the mother
or born of her. As the child grows older and
understands more and more of these natural processes
an opportunity can be used to make the presentation
of the subject more personal. He can be told
that during childhood his own sexual processes have
been undeveloped, but that as he grows older they
will awake. That with their awakening in adolescence
new temptations to self-indulgence in thought or action
may assail him, but that these temptations are delayed
by the wisdom of Nature until his understanding has
grown and his man’s strength of character has
developed. A high ideal of purity should be set
before boy and girl alike, and the conception of sex
from the beginning should be associated in their minds
with the high purpose to which some day it may be
put. Before the boy goes to a boarding-school
he should have imbibed from his father the desire for
moral cleanliness, the knowledge of good and of evil,
and a cordial dislike for everything that is sensual,
self-indulgent, or nasty. Talks on such subjects
should be very infrequent, but I believe that, if
“depolarisation” is to be achieved, they
must be repeated every now and then during later childhood
and in adolescence. To attempt to impart all
this interesting information in a single constrained
and awkward interview is to court failure, or at least
to run the risk that the explanation is not fully
understood, so that the child is mystified, or even
offended in his sense of propriety.