by it, has taken over the management of the child.
To this mother the explanation must be extended to
fit these observations, of the accuracy of which there
need be no doubt. Fretfulness and negativism with
all children whose management is at fault come in
waves and cycles. The child, naughty and almost
unmanageable one week, may behave as a model of propriety
the next. The negativism and refusal to go to
stool are the outcome of the nervous unrest, not its
cause. Again, the nervous child, like the adult
neuropath, very often improves for the time being with
every change of scene and surroundings. It is
the
ennui and monotony of daily existence,
in contact with the same restricted circle, that becomes
insupportable and brings into prominence the lack of
moral discipline, the fretfulness, and spirit of opposition.
Lastly, the conduct of the nervous child is determined
to a great extent by suggestions derived from the
grown-up people around him. Refusal of food,
refusal of sleep, refusal to go to stool, as we shall
see later, only become frequent or habitual when the
child’s conduct visibly distresses the nurse
or mother, and when the child fully appreciates the
stir which he is creating. The mother will readily
understand that in such a case, where constipation
varies in degree according as different persons take
charge of the child, the explanation offered is that
which alone fits with the observed facts. A full
and free discussion between mother and doctor, repeated
it may be more than once, may be necessary before
the truth is arrived at, and a line of action decided
upon. Only so can the doctor, remote as he is
from the environment of the child, intervene to mould
its nature and shape its conduct.
If the doctor is to fit himself to give advice of
this sort, he must be a close observer of little children.
He must not consider it beneath his dignity to study
nursery life and nursery ways. There he will
find the very beginnings of things, the growing point,
as it were, of all neuropathy. A man of fifty,
who in many other ways showed evidence of a highly
nervous temperament, had especially one well-marked
phobia, the fear of falling downstairs. It had
never been absent all his life, and he had grown used
to making the descent of the stairs clinging firmly
to the stair-rail. Family tradition assigned
this infirmity to a fall downstairs in early childhood.
But all children fall downstairs and are none the
worse. The persistence of the fear was due, I
make no doubt, to the attitude of the parents or nurse,
who made much of the accident, impressed the occasion
strongly on the child’s memory, and surrounded
him thereafter with precautions which sapped his confidence
and fanned his fears.