15) At the table, keep your hands in your lap when you are not eating; toying with articles on the table is bad form.

16) Between courses, avoid lounging back in your chair; keep your spine straight, your body poised a little forward, and your mind occupied with the conversation which you are helping to make pleasant.

17) Eat a little less of everything than you might.  Shrink from the slightest appearance of greediness.

18) Use knives, forks, and spoons in the order you find them.  When in doubt, observe your hostess.

19) After dipping the tips of your fingers into your finger bowl, dry them lightly on your napkin.

20) When the hostess rises, boys, rise and draw back the chair of the girl or the woman next you as she rises, and let her precede you from the room.

DUTY TO YOURSELF

    This above all:  to thine own self be true,
    And it must follow, as the night the day,
    Thou canst not then be false to any man.

    —­Shakespeare.

1) Take a complete bath at least three times a week; better still, every day.

2) Keep your hair, teeth, finger nails, and clothes in good condition.  Look well groomed.

3) If you eat, sleep, and exercise properly, your health and your complexion will be at their best.  Consult your gymnasium teacher on the subject, or consult a reliable book.

4) Girls, when you dress your hair too startlingly, wear waists that are too low or too thin, use powder and rouge, you remind boys and men of the wrong kind of woman.  The best time for cosmetics, if you must use them, is not during your school days.

5) Of course dress as becomingly as you can; but, in the main, rely for your attractiveness on your attainments, your gentle manners, your tact, and your active desire to render others comfortable and happy.

6) Cultivate charm, girls and boys.  The best teacher of “How to be charming,” is a really kind heart.  Every one of you can have that.

7) If your heart is kind, you will learn to talk interestingly, and to listen intelligently.

8) Try, increasingly, to fit your word to your thought, and your thought to the fact.  Being accurate does not mean being dull.  Effective speech has much need for imagination, but very little for common slang.  You understand and enjoy,—­

    These growing feathers plucked from Caesar’s wing Will make him
    fly an ordinary pitch.

If, however, in slang phrase, a person spoke of “swiping Caesar’s dope”; or of making Caesar “come off his perch,” you would see that something fine in the thought had vanished.  Practise expressing your ideas as attractively as possible.

9) Don’t make cutting remarks about those who are absent; your wit may win a laugh, but its unkindness will cause others to like you the less.  They will feel uncomfortable about what you may say of them in their absence.