At the end of the evening, the butler is always at the front door—­and by that time, unless the party is very large, he should have remembered their names, if he is a perfect butler, and as Mr. and Mrs. Jones appear he opens the door and calls down to the chauffeur “Mr. Jones’ car!” And in the same way “Mr. Smith’s car!” “Miss Gilding’s car!” When a car is at the door, the chauffeur runs up the steps and says to the butler:  “Miss Gilding’s car” or “Mrs. Jones’ car.”  The butler then announces to either Mr. or Mrs. Jones, “Your car, sir,” or “Your car, madam,” and holds the door open for her to go out, or he may say, “Your car, Miss,” if the Gilding car comes first.

=DINING-ROOM SERVICE AT PRIVATE ENTERTAINMENTS=

Supper at a ball in a great house (big enough for a ball) is usually in charge of the butler, who by “supper time” is free from his duties of “announcing” and is able to look after the dining-room service.  The sit-down supper at a ball is served exactly like a dinner—­or a wedding breakfast; and the buffet supper of a dance is like the buffet of a wedding reception.

At a large tea where the butler is on duty “announcing” at the same time that other guests are going into the dining-room for refreshments, the dining-room service has to be handed over to the first footman and his assistants or a capable waitress is equally able to meet the situation.  She should have at least two maids with her, as they have to pour all cups of tea and bouillon and chocolate as well as to take away used cups and plates and see that the food on the table is replenished.

At a small tea where ladies perform the office of pouring, one man or maid in the dining-room is plenty, to bring in more hot water or fresh cups, or whatever the table hostesses have need of.

=FORMAL SERVICE WITHOUT MEN SERVANTS=

Many, and very fastidious, people, who live in big houses and entertain constantly, have neither men servants nor employ a caterer, ever.  Efficient women take men’s places equally well, though two services are omitted.  Women never (in New York at least) announce guests or open the doors of motors.  But there is no difference whatsoever in the details of the pantry, dining-room, hall or dressing-room, whether the services are performed by men or women. (No women, of course, are ever on duty in the gentlemen’s dressing-rooms.)

At an evening party, the door is opened by the waitress, assisted by the parlor-maid who directs the way to the dressing-rooms.  The guests, when they are ready to go in the drawing-room, approach the hostess unannounced.  A guest who may not be known by sight does not wait for her hostess to recognize her but says at once, “How do you do, Mrs. Eminent, I’m Mrs. Joseph Blank”; or a young girl says, “I am Constance Style” (not “Miss Style,” unless she is beyond the “twenties"); or a married woman merely announces herself as “Mrs. Town.”  She does not add her husband’s name as it is taken for granted that the gentleman following her is Mr. Town.