A bride whose family or family-in-law has social position has merely to take that which is hers by inheritance; but a stranger who comes to live in a new place, or one who has always lived in a community but unknown to society, have both to acquire a standing of their own.  For example: 

=THE BRIDE OF GOOD FAMILY=

The bride of good family need do nothing on her own initiative.  After her marriage when she settles down in her own house or apartment, everyone who was asked to her wedding breakfast or reception, and even many who were only bidden to the church, call on her.  She keeps their cards, enters them in a visiting or ordinary alphabetically indexed blank book, and within two weeks she returns each one of their calls.

As it is etiquette for everyone when calling for the first time on a bride, to ask if she is in, the bride, in returning her first calls, should do likewise.  As a matter of fact, a bride assumes the intimate visiting list of both her own and her husband’s families, whether they call on her or not.  By and by, if she gives a general tea or ball, she can invite whom, among them, she wants to.  She should not, however, ask any mere acquaintances of her family to her house, until they have first invited her and her husband to theirs.  But if she would like to invite intimate friends of her own or of her husband, or of her family, there is no valid reason why she should not do so.

Usually when a bride and groom return from their wedding trip, all their personal friends and those of their respective parents, give “parties” for them.  And from being seen at one house, they are invited to another.  If they go nowhere, they do not lose position but they are apt to be overlooked until people remember them by seeing them.  But it is not at all necessary for young people to entertain in order to be asked out a great deal; they need merely be attractive and have engaging manners to be as popular as heart could wish.  But they must make it a point to be considerate of everyone and never fail to take the trouble to go up with a smiling “How do you do” to every older lady who has been courteous enough to invite them to her house.  That is not “toadying,” it is being merely polite.  To go up and gush is a very different matter, and to go up and gush over a prominent hostess who has never invited them to her house, is toadying and of a very cheap variety.

A really well-bred person is as charming as possible to all, but effusive to none, and shows no difference in manner either, to the high or to the lowly when they are of equally formal acquaintance.

=THE BRIDE WHO IS A STRANGER=