The woman of charm in “company” is the woman of fastidiousness at home; she who dresses for her children and “prinks” for her husband’s home-coming, is sure to greet them with greater charm than she who thinks whatever she happens to have on is “good enough.”  Any old thing good enough for those she loves most!  Think of it!

A certain very lovely lady whose husband is quite as much her lover as in the days of his courtship, has never in twenty years allowed him to watch the progress of her toilet, because of her determination never to let him see her except at her prettiest.  Needless to say, he never meets anything but “prettiest” manners either.  No matter how “out of sorts” she may be feeling, his key in the door is a signal for her to “put aside everything that is annoying or depressing,” with the result that wild horses couldn’t drag his attention from her—­all because neither she nor he has ever slumped into the gray flannel wrapper habit.

So many people save up all their troubles to pour on the one they most love, the idea being, seemingly, that no reserves are necessary between lovers.  Nor need there be really.  But why, when their house looks out upon a garden that has charming vistas, must she insist on his looking into the clothes-yard and the ash-can?  She who complains incessantly that this is wrong, or that hurts, or any other thing worries or vexes her, so that his inevitable answer to her greeting is, “I’m so sorry, dear,” or “That’s too bad,” or “Poor darling, it’s a shame,” is getting mentally into a gray flannel wrapper!

If something is seriously wrong, if she is really ill, that is different.  But of the petty things that are only remembered in order to be told to gain sympathy—­beware!

There is a big deposit of sympathy in the bank of love, but don’t draw out little sums every hour or so—­so that by and by, when perhaps you need it badly, it is all drawn out and you yourself don’t know how or on what it was spent.

All that has been said to warn a wife from slovenly habits of mind or dress may be adapted to apply with equal force in suggesting a rule for husbands.  A man should always remember that a woman’s regard for him is founded on her impressions when seeing him at his best.  Even granting that she has no great illusions about men in general, he at his best is at least an approximation to her ideal—­and it is his chief duty never to fall below the standard he set for himself in making his most cogent appeal.  Consequently he should continue through the years to be scrupulous about his personal appearance and his clothes, remembering the adage that the most successful marriages are those in which both parties to the contract succeed in “keeping up the illusion.”  It is of importance also that he refrain from burdening his wife with the cares and worries of his business day.  Many writers insist that the wife should be ready to receive a complete consignment of all